Accept it and make the most of it and conveniently forget Kath was originaly a guy. I've designed them to be pretty damn tenacious in their own right. Declining would probably burn more energy/sec than accepting and coping.
Also not everyday your wife's a snowcap. Or a catgirl. Or a....whatever stereotype there is for au ra.
Also not everyday your wife's a snowcap. Or a catgirl. Or a....whatever stereotype there is for au ra.