(04-07-2016, 02:29 PM)Osena Rhen Wrote:(04-07-2016, 02:13 PM)Faye Wrote: <snip> someone said this sounds "situational." It doesn't. They're making you unhappy OOC. <snip>
That would be me, and of course it's situational. We're being given one side of a story that undoubtedly has two sides. Miscommunication happens. Misunderstanding happens. Real-life stress can overflow unintentionally into in-game misbehavior. A flat-out lack of someone communicating "Hey, this is a boundary for me" can occur and the other person may not realize that was a boundary (not all boundaries are obvious). As a result of any of those things, unhappiness can happen between two friends who both like each other a lot and who mean to do good towards each other. A scenario like this is never as simple as "you feel badly, cut them off". If that's how we all were to behave, we'd never retain any friends at all, because even the best of friends sometimes tick each other off.
It's still not situational, and it is as simple as "if you feel badly, cut them off." The other side of the story does not matter. If someone is unhappy in a situation, they should fix it or leave it. People can decide for themselves whether a friendship or partnership is bringing more positive than negative and if it is worth salvaging. No one is obligated to keep a friendship or role-play going if they are unhappy. "Let me RP with my friends," isn't a boundary anyone should have to establish or state outright; it should be a given in any kind of healthy relationship.
To reiterate what I said my last post, the other person's reasoning doesn't really matter. If I've had a bad day and want to scream at someone, no one is obligated to endure my screaming, or to forgive me for it, or to remain my friend afterward. Similarly, if someone is insecure and frightened of losing someone they care about, that doesn't excuse them smothering and alienating that person. That this person may not understand what they're doing wrong doesn't matter. Even if the OP here is hiding details or blowing things out of proportion (which I would doubt) there's no need to hear out the "other side" because they know the situation and are obviously unhappy with it, and they need to put their own happiness first.
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