I'm going to echo what others have said: You have no obligation to stick around with someone who is causing you OOC stress and trying to guilt-trip you OOC. Does the possibility exist that they don't know what they're doing? Yes, but it's not your responsibility to teach them or to help them if you don't want to. It's a stronger possibility they know what they're doing. If it's too much emotional baggage to deal with, tell them 'listen, this is too much, I'm out'.
Yes, I've done the same with two other RP partners (I don't have many, for this very reason). They all knew I had a husband and I'm not interested in any OOC romance or anything more than friendship. The very -moment- the act clingy or express anything other than basic friendly intentions, I drop them and tell them goodbye. I don't play those games, been through that, been through too much in my life to let some person on the internet try to ruin my happiness OOC.
If you feel it's worth it, and they'll change, then by all means attempt to rectify the situation. Whether or not it works completely depends on the other person. If they don't start changing, then for your own sake you need to drop them. If you stay in such a relationship without change, you're falling into a perpetual victimhood hole with this person you'll never be able to climb out of. Not without damage.
The only situation you have to worry about is you. The only person who can control their way out is you. The only person who can control your feelings, your actions is you. And it goes the same for the other person. You are not responsible for their actions, their feelings or their words. You have to make them take responsibility for what they're doing, whether or not it's 'listen, you need to stop what you're doing, it's wrong; I'm willing to help you change' or 'listen, what you're doing is wrong and I'm out'.
For those that don't understand the definition of obligation, here it is. There is a very clear, hard difference between obligation and desire. I have no obligation to help homeless stray dogs find homes, but I have a desire to do so. I have no obligation to the OP to give them advice, but I desire to do so.
'obligation
[ob-li-gey-shuh n]
noun
1.
something by which a person is bound or obliged to do certain things, and which arises out of a sense of duty or results from custom, law, etc.
2.
something that is done or is to be done for such reasons:
to fulfill one's obligations.
3.
a binding promise, contract, sense of duty, etc.
4.
the act of binding or obliging oneself by a promise, contract, etc.
5.
Law.
an agreement enforceable by law, originally applied to promises under seal.
a document containing such an agreement.
a bond containing a penalty, with a condition annexed for payment of money, performance of covenants, etc.
6.
any bond, note, bill, certificate, or the like, as of a government or a corporation, serving as evidence of indebtedness.
7.
an indebtedness or amount of indebtedness.'
Yes, I've done the same with two other RP partners (I don't have many, for this very reason). They all knew I had a husband and I'm not interested in any OOC romance or anything more than friendship. The very -moment- the act clingy or express anything other than basic friendly intentions, I drop them and tell them goodbye. I don't play those games, been through that, been through too much in my life to let some person on the internet try to ruin my happiness OOC.
If you feel it's worth it, and they'll change, then by all means attempt to rectify the situation. Whether or not it works completely depends on the other person. If they don't start changing, then for your own sake you need to drop them. If you stay in such a relationship without change, you're falling into a perpetual victimhood hole with this person you'll never be able to climb out of. Not without damage.
The only situation you have to worry about is you. The only person who can control their way out is you. The only person who can control your feelings, your actions is you. And it goes the same for the other person. You are not responsible for their actions, their feelings or their words. You have to make them take responsibility for what they're doing, whether or not it's 'listen, you need to stop what you're doing, it's wrong; I'm willing to help you change' or 'listen, what you're doing is wrong and I'm out'.
For those that don't understand the definition of obligation, here it is. There is a very clear, hard difference between obligation and desire. I have no obligation to help homeless stray dogs find homes, but I have a desire to do so. I have no obligation to the OP to give them advice, but I desire to do so.
'obligation
[ob-li-gey-shuh n]
noun
1.
something by which a person is bound or obliged to do certain things, and which arises out of a sense of duty or results from custom, law, etc.
2.
something that is done or is to be done for such reasons:
to fulfill one's obligations.
3.
a binding promise, contract, sense of duty, etc.
4.
the act of binding or obliging oneself by a promise, contract, etc.
5.
Law.
an agreement enforceable by law, originally applied to promises under seal.
a document containing such an agreement.
a bond containing a penalty, with a condition annexed for payment of money, performance of covenants, etc.
6.
any bond, note, bill, certificate, or the like, as of a government or a corporation, serving as evidence of indebtedness.
7.
an indebtedness or amount of indebtedness.'
