Hello friends. I haven't been around as much lately due to my pregnancy. In my limited play time over the last several months, the tone of the linkshell has shifted from one of roegadyn camraderie to something verging on toxicity.
A handful of people have spoken to me individually about being unhappy with the changing tone of the LS, but they have been afraid to speak up because of the social cost of doing so. In fact, I found myself today unhappy seeing the female Weeping City bosses being called "bitches," but I was afraid to speak up because I thought I'd get flamed on my own LS. That is how bad it has gotten that I, usually someone outspoken, have just been quiet, feared enforcing my own rules for respect and civility. However, I know it isn't just me. We have had some good roegadyn who have quietly quit the LS because they've been unhappy with the changing environment. Accordingly, I want to remind everyone of our only real rule (besides roe only, of course!):
This means that if someone doesn't like the tone or topic of the conversation, move on and take it to /tell. You don't tell that person they are wrong for being unhappy or upset. We are a community, and if you don't care about how your words or actions affect others, you should find another linkshell or start your own. If you want somewhere you don't have to care about other people's feelings, there are plenty of other places you can go on the internet. Broken Chairs is a supportive environment.
A handful of people have spoken to me individually about being unhappy with the changing tone of the LS, but they have been afraid to speak up because of the social cost of doing so. In fact, I found myself today unhappy seeing the female Weeping City bosses being called "bitches," but I was afraid to speak up because I thought I'd get flamed on my own LS. That is how bad it has gotten that I, usually someone outspoken, have just been quiet, feared enforcing my own rules for respect and civility. However, I know it isn't just me. We have had some good roegadyn who have quietly quit the LS because they've been unhappy with the changing environment. Accordingly, I want to remind everyone of our only real rule (besides roe only, of course!):
Quote:Don't be a jerk. No locker-room talk. If someone asks you not to do something that is making them uncomfortable, be respectful and knock it off.
This means that if someone doesn't like the tone or topic of the conversation, move on and take it to /tell. You don't tell that person they are wrong for being unhappy or upset. We are a community, and if you don't care about how your words or actions affect others, you should find another linkshell or start your own. If you want somewhere you don't have to care about other people's feelings, there are plenty of other places you can go on the internet. Broken Chairs is a supportive environment.
