-raises hand- I'm one of those people that have too much RP and can't make a whole lot of time to spend with others.
Though I don't go to many events. Most of them get way too crowded and I can't stand the chat scroll so I avoid them and I know many others are the same way. It's not that I wouldn't mind going to events, but if it's 30-40 people crammed into one floor of someone's house? No thanks. That's too much for me and it's not worth it to go to an event where people keep missing each others posts and you basically sit there either posting in tells or party chat or simply not saying anything at all.
Performance events, though fun when attended now and then, are the same thing. I'd rather go out and engage in something active then sit and watch other people emote and occasionally /clap but otherwise just...sit there. Especially if I go solo. I end up spending more time alt tabbed then actually paying attention.
Instead? I plan. I have too. Why? Between working 45-50 hours a week as a nanny/caretaker, maintaining time between my boys, hanging with my friends in my LS/Discord, date nights, family time, 'me' time...if I don't plan? I'd never get anything done. Ever.
However, I notice a number of folks who don't really plan. It's not a bad thing! But when they randomly ask me 'Wanna RP right now?' and I just started a RP I organized to do with someone a week ago? Yeah, I have to say no. I try to plan something ahead with the other person if possible! But if they aren't willing to meet me halfway in that? Then we don't RP unless they happen to catch me at a rare moment when I'm not doing something already planned or I'm not reveling in 'me' time. It might suck for the other person if they like to be more spontaneous, but I don't have the time for it.
I also have three active in-game characters, one semi-active Skype RP character, and then alts that I swap between when the need or mood rises for it. Along with the PvE that goes with that (two in-game mains are geared across two or three classes each and the third just recently hit level 50).
It's a combination of getting RP in when there isn't events people are going to or plans already laid out in advance. Usually planning helps get the ball rolling but it doesn't always ensure someone is able to get RP happening at the moment they wish for it. Sometimes they have to wait and fill in the gaps they have in the meantime.
If someone is off doing other RP or says they're busy? Try to plan! Ask when would be a good time or day! If they can't manage to do that then try giving it another two or three goes with asking them when it seems like they're not busy. Otherwise? They're either not interested or too swamped and it might be best to find someone else in the same boat RP wise.
Though I don't go to many events. Most of them get way too crowded and I can't stand the chat scroll so I avoid them and I know many others are the same way. It's not that I wouldn't mind going to events, but if it's 30-40 people crammed into one floor of someone's house? No thanks. That's too much for me and it's not worth it to go to an event where people keep missing each others posts and you basically sit there either posting in tells or party chat or simply not saying anything at all.
Performance events, though fun when attended now and then, are the same thing. I'd rather go out and engage in something active then sit and watch other people emote and occasionally /clap but otherwise just...sit there. Especially if I go solo. I end up spending more time alt tabbed then actually paying attention.
Instead? I plan. I have too. Why? Between working 45-50 hours a week as a nanny/caretaker, maintaining time between my boys, hanging with my friends in my LS/Discord, date nights, family time, 'me' time...if I don't plan? I'd never get anything done. Ever.
However, I notice a number of folks who don't really plan. It's not a bad thing! But when they randomly ask me 'Wanna RP right now?' and I just started a RP I organized to do with someone a week ago? Yeah, I have to say no. I try to plan something ahead with the other person if possible! But if they aren't willing to meet me halfway in that? Then we don't RP unless they happen to catch me at a rare moment when I'm not doing something already planned or I'm not reveling in 'me' time. It might suck for the other person if they like to be more spontaneous, but I don't have the time for it.
I also have three active in-game characters, one semi-active Skype RP character, and then alts that I swap between when the need or mood rises for it. Along with the PvE that goes with that (two in-game mains are geared across two or three classes each and the third just recently hit level 50).
It's a combination of getting RP in when there isn't events people are going to or plans already laid out in advance. Usually planning helps get the ball rolling but it doesn't always ensure someone is able to get RP happening at the moment they wish for it. Sometimes they have to wait and fill in the gaps they have in the meantime.
If someone is off doing other RP or says they're busy? Try to plan! Ask when would be a good time or day! If they can't manage to do that then try giving it another two or three goes with asking them when it seems like they're not busy. Otherwise? They're either not interested or too swamped and it might be best to find someone else in the same boat RP wise.
