(11-17-2016, 04:57 PM)Eses Fafa Wrote: Now if there's an FC event going on or there's a genuinely interesting event occurring which advances story, you're buggered, but often times, these kinds of refusal are often just signs they're just not interested.
I don't really think that's fair to say, just because you've done it before and we all might have used it as an excuse once or twice. You may feel most events are just filler, but others genuinely do enjoy them or sometimes want to show up and stick around just to support the community and/or the host. Your feelings aren't universal. Syranelle really put it well. MMO's are intentional time sinks and that's not even considering how much real life and other hobbies might eat up our time and energy. A lot of us make plans in advance, be it "last week my friend asked me to RP tonight" or "I planned to hit 60 today" or "I really wanna check out that event I saw on the RPC last night."
Now typically, if I'm at an event and someone wants to role-play, or if I'm already in a role-play that's open, I will say "I'm already doing ____, but you can come join me." I'm not always going to drop whatever I'm already doing for someone, but if it's something they can join me in, the more the merrier. If the response someone is giving doesn't have the invitation to join them tacked on, it could mean they are politely declining RPing with you in general, or it could just mean that the event/RP is closed/private or even just that the person doesn't have the best social graces and didn't think at the time to invite you. I don't think it's fair to yourself to assume every rejection means "I don't want to RP with you ever" because that's being overly harsh on yourself and how you think others see you (and ultimately just denying yourself opportunities), and I don't think it's fair to others to presume they have ulterior motives or dislike you when they may just be genuinely busy.
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