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(12-18-2016, 08:53 PM)Terrin Wrote: Saying something multiple times doesn't magically make it okay. Simply saying "I didn't mean to ignore /s and /em" doesn't magically mean they didn't do it.
If they're looking for a change of scenery or special backdrop, there are hundreds of places to go. If someone goes to a public event, they should be prepared to publicly RP with others, or accept that what they are doing is pretty messed up for those who came to a public event to try to make connections, and not try to defend their actions.
You are correct, no one is obligated to RP with anyone. That doesn't make them immune to criticism though, and if they're not in the mood to RP with strangers, they shouldn't go to an event where there will be a lot of strangers then try to defend their actions when someone finally says "wtf?".
I think its extremely unfair that people tell new people that they should be expected to be ignored at large public events, then say it was their own fault because they don't know anyone. Why do they need to set something up OOCly, or stick to smaller events to try to get RP? I never said that groups shouldn't be allowed at public events, but question why they are there if they're just gonna privately RP anyway.
Like... you're saying, "you're right, nobody's obligated to RP with anyone", and then saying, "but they are under these circumstances!"
No; nobody's obligated to RP with anyone. Full stop.
Even if they're at an event. Even if they have their RP tag up. Even if you really really want to RP with someone and everyone else so far has said no.
Your criticism is nonsensical, and based in entitlement. I could repeat the extensive examples I gave in my previous post to you - it still applies. There are a dozen reasonable causes behind people being in public and not wanting to respond to walk-ups. Whether that "in public" is at an RP event, or otherwise.
I don't think it's "fair" to force people who aren't up to it to talk to random strangers, because otherwise that stranger might get upset. And once you start getting into "well maybe if they're sick/tired/etc then we can make an exception", you start to see how nonsensical your stance really is... because there's no way of proving who, online, is in those circumstances and who's pretending so they can get out of doing something they just don't feel like.
So you have to assume the best of people. Or you'll end up twisting yourself around and getting so angry about... something you can't control. Something you should never try to control in the first place. You can't force people to turn on /s /em, you can't force people to talk to you, you can't force people to give a 600w written report on why they didn't reply to you within 30 seconds... no matter how unfair you think it is that they "ignored" you.
Man, just find someone who does want to RP! Ask around in your linkshells if anyone's got anything you can join in with. Or if anyone wants to join your character doing a treasure hunt or visiting the bar or something. It's Balmung; there's usually at least 2 events going on during a given night (there were legitimately 5 events going on last night during the gala). Or just go "aight, I guess today's a dud", do your roulettes, maybe write a story or a journal entry about what your character's been doing today if you really still got that itch, and check the RP calendar for something more your pace on another day
Don't get mad about stuff you can't control. Start looking to the stuff you can.
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