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(12-31-2016, 08:03 AM)Evaleigh Wrote: Â What I discovered is the following:
- If you have a green leaf on your head you're very likely to get ignored.
- 90% of the time if someone puts on their RP tag and goes and sit alone in a corner you end up with 10 people sitting alone and nobody interacting.
- If you approach people directly you will get a decent contact about 3 or 4 times out of 10. This number goes up if you send them a /tell first asking to RP before you just walk up.
- Approaching a group that's RPing is VERY likely to be ignored.
- Approaching an FC to try and get involved in their RP is about as effective as cold walkups. Â FCs by their very nature are cliquish. Â I actually had a VERY negative experience with a walkup to an FC where I was OOCly chewed out because their RP was "closed" in spite being in a public setting and all their emotes being done in /em.
My conclusion is that we have a very toxic and insular community on Balmung.
My heart seriously goes out for any new RPer or ones struggling to get established contacts. Â
Just wanted to throw my input in as a brand new player to the game and the community. I have no negative or positive history here, and I think some people who seem jaded around here probably had some negative experiences and are letting that cloud their judgement. I could be wrong though.
- Having this silly leaf on my characters, I've actually received a few random messages welcoming me to the game and someone even mailed me 1000gil. (Never saw that in other MMO's I've played)
- I do agree with seeing a lot of people with a RP tag never interacting. But I just think of a high school dance with lots of shy people. Everyone who is uncertain of what they're supposed to do.. just sit around and wait. So much wasted time. But yes, I do wish more people with their RP tag up did show some sign of life when sitting in the same spot for hours.
- I've approached people IC and OOC and I've never been ignored (so far!). IC I ended up asking for directions in the city a few times, another time I ran up to someone and acted like I knew them and then admitted (all IC) that I had mistaken them for someone else. Just random, surprising things like that seem to catch people, even if it's for 15-20 minutes.
OOC.. I've approached a good amount of people based on what information is in their RP note (search info tag thing), and the ones who I really look into are the ones with a tiny URL link to their tumblr/wiki. I've been able to weed through the ones who are obviously in the game for ERP, and have found some pretty awesome characters to add to my contact list. And I made sure to whisper them and show appreciation for the creativity of the character. I figure if I get my name into their head, they may remember me when I come upon them IC sometime.
- Absolutely agree with the part about walking up to groups. But I again think about if someone randomly came up to myself and a group of friends at a party or some other social event, and we had no idea who they were, we most likely would just continue with what we were talking about and not welcome the person with open arms. That is just life.
- I've yet to worry about the FC thing and I've been too busy to worry about groups of people in the city. There are SO MANY FC on this server that for me it's important to find the right one instead of just finding random people to talk to. I will say that while I was out in the middle of no where, I saw a small group of people RP'ing who shared a FC tag and when I bowed to one of them, they all turned and bowed at me. It surprised me.
To add in, again as a brand new person to all of this, my personality isn't really the wall flower type. I played a MMO for the social aspect so what sense does it make for me to sit around and wait. So, I could say that being outgoing and proactive is on my side.
It is true.. no one owes anyone else time or RP. It's not a mean statement, it's just a fact. What methods work for me may not work for everyone, but I'd be willing to bet if someone took the time to really try and network, they would surprise themselves.
I love the community so far and to me it's far from toxic. Usually I hear that word when someone has had horrible personal experiences in the past and there's still resentment over it.
But the community as a whole (in my opinion) has been a great experience. Some people have such unique and fantastic characters, which they've been invested in for years. They are very passionate about what they have created and sometimes that causes them to be very selective about who they interact with. I was the exact same way in my past MMO after RP'ing there for many years with the same group of friends. It would make zero sense if someone changed who their character was, just because someone walked up to them with a cheerful disposition and expected to be entertained with RP.
So for any new people, don't be discouraged if you don't get the results you want within your first 72 hours of being in game. You signed up to the play the game in a RP community. So... go RP.
*Ignore typos please, absence of coffee