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(12-31-2016, 10:08 AM)Kailani Wrote:(12-31-2016, 08:03 AM)Evaleigh Wrote: Â What I discovered is the following:
- If you have a green leaf on your head you're very likely to get ignored.
- 90% of the time if someone puts on their RP tag and goes and sit alone in a corner you end up with 10 people sitting alone and nobody interacting.
- If you approach people directly you will get a decent contact about 3 or 4 times out of 10. This number goes up if you send them a /tell first asking to RP before you just walk up.
- Approaching a group that's RPing is VERY likely to be ignored.
- Approaching an FC to try and get involved in their RP is about as effective as cold walkups. Â FCs by their very nature are cliquish. Â I actually had a VERY negative experience with a walkup to an FC where I was OOCly chewed out because their RP was "closed" in spite being in a public setting and all their emotes being done in /em.
My conclusion is that we have a very toxic and insular community on Balmung.
My heart seriously goes out for any new RPer or ones struggling to get established contacts. Â
Just wanted to throw my input in as a brand new player to the game and the community. I have no negative or positive history here, and I think some people who seem jaded around here probably had some negative experiences and are letting that cloud their judgement. I could be wrong though.
I think this is really important. This is the difference between someone who has preconceived expectations regarding the rp community (and frankly may be unconsciously looking for negatives to check them off a mental list of sorts) and someone who is actually new here.
It goes back to what we've all been saying, you're gonna have to put yourself out there AND it's wise to pick your battles (like in real life socializing, don't go up and interrupt an in-depth convo, do go up and talk to the shy people, it's hard to hold a convo in a crowded room, and of course know that you may be rebuffed sometimes.)
While I think the title of the thread is unfortunate, there are a lot of helpful insights in here that many rpers can learn from.
What I've learned in my time on Balmung... damn, we have a lot of people with social anxiety.