(12-31-2016, 02:34 PM)RElNHART Wrote: "Are you uncomfortable with how much time she's spending RPing with this person? Does she RP with them a lot? Did they get really close in a short amount of time and their OOC interactions are making you uncomfortable? Do you know the RP partner and does he talk to you?"
A bit of all the above. the out of character interactions aren't at all like they are in game, We've all been on a VOIP at the same time. The other person seems like a good guy and is respectful. No ERP either.
I've just been having difficulty with them because I feel like I'm the third wheel when she's my girlfriend. It's gotten to a point where I can't do anything in game with just her anymore. Like I'm the one tagging along with them.
The character interactions wouldn't bother me so much if I didn't feel like I'm just along for the ride.Â
So I guess I am having insecurities and haven't thought of a proper way to deal with it without angering the two of them. I really don't want to be that guy and ruin something harmless but at the same time I don't want to play by myself anymore.
imo talk to your girlfriend (privately without her RP partner around) and just let her know you like to play XIV with her and want to spend more quality time with her in game. Ask her if you could run some dungeons or role-play or whatever it is you two do together in game sometime with just the two of you and no one else. You don't have to make it about the role-play or her role-play partner, since it doesn't seem like that's the real source of the issue anyway, and "I want you to RP less" or "I want you to spend less time with this person" always comes across as controlling.
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