(12-31-2016, 03:57 PM)Kailani Wrote:(12-31-2016, 02:09 PM)RElNHART Wrote: ...if your SO IRL has an RP relationship in game with someone else (platonic, the two characters are married), at which point would it feel like the rp relationship is getting in the way of their real one?
This may sound like a strange question, but I do have reasons behind it. Â Is your "SO IRL" someone who is an online relationship you've had for a while now, or someone you live with/see daily/weekly? I think this makes a huge difference. In past experiences I've seen online relationships get tossed to the side in lieu of other friendships simply because the person is so used to everything being online or interchangeable even. It could just be miscommunication between you two in regards to priorities.
This bit about.. Â "It's gotten to a point where I can't do anything in game with just her anymore. Like I'm the one tagging along with them.", Â is really the only thing that makes me question any of it. I've spent endless hours with my RP partner(s) with nothing shady happening behind the scenes that my real life relationships haven't known about. Sometimes there's just a click and you really enjoy that time with them, because there are a lot of crazies in game.
But if YOU are feeling like the third wheel, then yeah you need to say something to her ASAP. Because unless you are being super sensitive, demanding of her time or controlling (which you don't seem to be from what you've said), there's never a reason she should be putting her feelings about someone in a game, over yours.
Just chat her up about all this, and you'll feel much better.
We're been dating for 6 years. I see her pretty often, bout a 10 min drive from my house. but she's been playing ffxiv a lot more recently and I've been having trouble directing her attention away from it. So I sit there pretending like everything is ok. Sometimes I nap, sometimes we'll catch up on some youtube videos. Want her to play something else with me when I'm over there because I don't want to have to bring my pc tower every time I want to visit so we can play 14.
