(02-27-2017, 08:26 PM)Sena Varont Wrote: They probably should.Â
I mean, the OP was a bit of idle fun-poking at the extent to which some people take Adult Pretendsies way, way too seriously, and it's had the result of a bunch of the way too serious types going defensive rather than having a chuckle and moving on with their day.
I can't tell if this is a reference to the discussion people were having in response to the OP, or the more recent responses to you personally as we've slowly drifted off-topic.
If it's the former and you actually resent the discussion itself, then...why are you here? Shh. Let people enjoy things. That's kind of been the theme of this thread. You do you, they'll have their intellectual discourse.
If it's the latter, what kind of response were you expecting when you waltzed in and tried to explain straight to people's faces that experiences they personally lived through are, in fact, false? This is dumbing the argument down a bit, but for the sake of levity and brevity: If I ate a burrito last Friday, and someone tried to convince me I had pizza, I'd give them a confused look, then say: "No, you're a dumbass. I ate a burrito and I know what happened in my own life. What the hell is wrong with you?" Sure, I'd probably get over it after five minutes because it was dumb and petty, but I'd still call them a petty dumbass along the way.
And that's over something completely banal and pointless. If you're going to take someone's reasoned, meaningful discussion, something they actually cared enough about to, y'know, take a few minutes out of their day and share some personal insight about, and tell them "nah, your experiences, things you've actually lived through, are completely invalid," can you see how that comes off? Let's set aside your intent for a second with the assumption that you meant no actual harm and that wasn't at all what you actually meant to say. Just think about how that comes out and reaches the other person, what that says to the person you're talking to about how little their opinion matters or how much you're actually paying attention to it? Particularly when you continue to argue that specific point without addressing that you might have stepped on someone's toes on accident?
Can you maybe, just a little bit, in an alternate reality, see how someone might take offense to being treated like that? Can you see how some of the salt might be at least a little bit justified? Enough with the holier than thou routine. Meet me halfway here.
Anyway, now that I can put the soapbox away, my two cents on the topic: I joined an fc with an application, so clearly, they don't bother me that much. I hemmed and hawed for a week because I'm a lazy fuck, but that was on me, and when I actually sat down, it took like a half hour tops. You know what took a lot longer than a half hour? A freaking RPC wiki page, and those are practically standard on these forums so far as I can tell (mind you, my perception). You know what else took more than half an hour? Developing my freaking character's backstory and personality, something else I highly recommend all people do. Maybe people do things in a different order than I do, but by the time you're actually ready to fill out an fc application, you've already put hours into your character. Like, good, well-rounded rp characters take a fuckton of work, even outside of the rp itself, especially in their nascent stages. After all that work, is taking 20-30 more minutes to fill out some piddly paperwork really that great an additional burden? Hell, I imagine it's more stressful and time consuming to specifically find a quality fc that doesn't have a registration than to just apply for one that fits the theme you like. Like, you can do it, I'm sure, and if that's really what you want, sure...but just...why?
All credit for the graphic to Benedict Whiteraven, you magnificent bastard.