The recent trend of "looking for romantic RP" messages here at the RPC has me wondering... why do others attempt to pre-arrange romantic RP? I understand that uncertainty is lame (life's full of enough uncertainty as it is, and it can be a bit frightening to try and manage), but, isn't the mystery and the anticipation a crucial element of a situation having a romantic feel to it? I guess it's probably a little different for everyone, of course.
Admittedly, in the past, I've had situations come up wherein I've done it, but, my experience has been that it was, most of the time, a very shallow experience that lacked "life", and as such it didn't hold either party's interest for very long. The times when I've had a character become romantically involved with another and it ended up being a fulfilling and interesting element of their overall story, and it lasted long enough to be meaningful and feel even plausibly realistic, it happened organically. My character met another character, as players we enjoyed each other's writing, and so we made a point to roleplay again another time. And then another time, and another time, and the interactions between the characters just naturally diverted into romantic interest.
Have others out there had a lot of great experiences with pre-planned romance RP? Is that why it seems there's a lot of people looking for it lately?Â
note: Ideally, I'd like any discussion on the topic to steer completely clear of any diversion into discussing ERP. While it's certainly possible that for some players "I'm looking for romance for my character" equates to "Tell me what kinky things you like and if I'm on board we'll get down", we all are aware of that possibility, and thus we needn't bring it up. Let's focus instead on the assumption that the stated requests by the relevant parties were genuinely a search for a "full romantic scenario" and not "pls snusnu".
Admittedly, in the past, I've had situations come up wherein I've done it, but, my experience has been that it was, most of the time, a very shallow experience that lacked "life", and as such it didn't hold either party's interest for very long. The times when I've had a character become romantically involved with another and it ended up being a fulfilling and interesting element of their overall story, and it lasted long enough to be meaningful and feel even plausibly realistic, it happened organically. My character met another character, as players we enjoyed each other's writing, and so we made a point to roleplay again another time. And then another time, and another time, and the interactions between the characters just naturally diverted into romantic interest.
Have others out there had a lot of great experiences with pre-planned romance RP? Is that why it seems there's a lot of people looking for it lately?Â
note: Ideally, I'd like any discussion on the topic to steer completely clear of any diversion into discussing ERP. While it's certainly possible that for some players "I'm looking for romance for my character" equates to "Tell me what kinky things you like and if I'm on board we'll get down", we all are aware of that possibility, and thus we needn't bring it up. Let's focus instead on the assumption that the stated requests by the relevant parties were genuinely a search for a "full romantic scenario" and not "pls snusnu".
Lydia Lightfoot ~ The Reliquarian's Guild «Relic» ~ Lavender Beds, Ward 12, #41
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This player has a sense of humor. If the content of the post suggests otherwise, please err on the side of amusement and friendship, because that's almost certainly the intent. We're all on the same team: Team Roleplayer! Have a smile, have a chuckle, and have a slice of pie. Isn't pie great?
