People want what people want. Â Trite or profound, it just seems more fair for them to be upfront about their priorities.
I tend to write characters who fall somewhere outside the "cute singles in your area" genre, and while it's still entirely plausible for someone to find them dateable, they just aren't built with romance in mind.  And while most folks looking for contacts who say "romance is nice if it happens" mean it sincerely, it's pretty clear that others really really want romance that also ties into their larger story.  And that's fine - I'd just really rather they were more forthcoming about it so I'd know they didn't want what I was offering.
I tend to write characters who fall somewhere outside the "cute singles in your area" genre, and while it's still entirely plausible for someone to find them dateable, they just aren't built with romance in mind.  And while most folks looking for contacts who say "romance is nice if it happens" mean it sincerely, it's pretty clear that others really really want romance that also ties into their larger story.  And that's fine - I'd just really rather they were more forthcoming about it so I'd know they didn't want what I was offering.
