There is one thing I think people might be overlooking. Â Threads that say looking for romance don't always mean prearranged romance. Â Sure the poster might be looking for that, but those threads can also just as easily be "Hey, I'm looking for a love interest for my character, let me know if you're interested. Â We can get some RP in and see how they get along." Â In a case like that, the forum post more acts as a bar, a place to meet prospective partners, not something to outright prearrange things.
That aside, I tried a prearranged relationship exactly once, in a different mmo, and it was an absolute train wreck. Â It was with an in-game friend of mine. Â She just got clear of a drama bomb and asked me to put my character in a relationship with one she just made. Â It didn't take long to learn what sounded good on paper just didn't play out well. Â The romance crashed and burned spectacularly. Â The warning signs were there. Â Had we even played them as friends for a month before getting them together, we would have seen it wouldn't work.
So, lesson learned. Â To tie back to the start, I am not adverse to seeing how characters RP with mine, if they spark or such, but I will never, never again just outright prearrange a relationship.
That aside, I tried a prearranged relationship exactly once, in a different mmo, and it was an absolute train wreck. Â It was with an in-game friend of mine. Â She just got clear of a drama bomb and asked me to put my character in a relationship with one she just made. Â It didn't take long to learn what sounded good on paper just didn't play out well. Â The romance crashed and burned spectacularly. Â The warning signs were there. Â Had we even played them as friends for a month before getting them together, we would have seen it wouldn't work.
So, lesson learned. Â To tie back to the start, I am not adverse to seeing how characters RP with mine, if they spark or such, but I will never, never again just outright prearrange a relationship.
