(10-07-2017, 11:15 PM)Faye Wrote:Oh, yeah of course lol. Just about reading through some it, I started to get the feeling that combining all these red flags as things people can lookout for or things they themselves may not want to do... It gave me the thought that perhaps things can get trivial and we just needa sit back and enjoy ourselves. Just reading it altogether can seem like a lot of people find a lot of things distasteful without any context to it.(10-07-2017, 03:51 AM)Arashin Kujqai Wrote: Tbh, I feel people need to loosen up their judgements a bit more. More specifically any prejudgements they hold. Some red flags may indicate warning or something bad but that alone doesn't actually constitute the person is bad or something's wrong with them or RP'ing with them. Everyone's got a life of their own specifics and understandings both IRL and in game, just should respect each other and move on with it. Maybe I sound too "peace and love" atm but I think some areas of RP in many servers would get along much more if they just learned to have fun and loosen up themselves a bit, than to get offended or see reasons to not get along over all the reasons they COULD get along with.
I don't think everyone here is saying they'll be sending hatemail or outright ignoring anyone who hits any of their red flags--that's just not part of the definition of "red flag" and isn't inherent in the discussion unless someone specifically says that. While I personally do think some of the red flags other have listed are a case of correlation rather than causation for any sort of unpleasant behavior and are therefore not necessarily fair or helpful, there's nothing wrong with the idea of having a checklist of things that make you uncomfortable or things that have always seemed to correspond with unpleasant experiences.
It's not disrespectful--and is indeed "moving on"--to keep your distance from anyone who throws up warning signs to you. All my "red flags" are either things that have always ended up poorly or very rarely ended well, they are either signs of patterns I have recognized in my 10+ years of RP or acts that in themselves make me uncomfortable. I don't have unlimited free time, and I do have my own happiness and safety to consider (I venture everyone is the same in that regard). I don't always want to spend my time and energy on interactions that make me uneasy and are very likely to be unpleasant all around.
It is not any absence of "peace and love" from anyone else, many people just value their own time and enjoyment and don't want to gamble it on a experience they think/know is likely to go awry, and oftentimes avoiding people you don't mesh with is part of keeping that "peace."As you said, everyone has their own lives in game and out, some people don't have the time or temperaments to be always taking risks on interactions with other people who have already proven to be sketchy to them.
Like atm, I'm helping a friend learn how to RP a char that isn't very social. Without attempting to make her look like a lamp lol. May be a red flag to some or a "I'll just avoid this" kinda thing to others, but for the most part, just gotta have people remember not to jump the gun. A red flag is like you said, just a lil check on the list to check out everything first.
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