(06-30-2013, 11:22 PM)Y Wrote: Arlon,
I have been dating a non-gamer girl for years now, and I have to say that the key to survival is, like in most relationship issues, communication.
I talk to my girlfriend, and she has come to realize that gaming is something I love, and that gives me an important outlet. She respects my time and, when not gaming, I'm with her. It does help quite a bit that she is in science and works an ungodly amount, but that's not really the heart of why things work out. I know sometimes she has to work on the weekends. She knows sometimes I really need to be with goodly folks like you lot. Let her know that this is important.
As to the game being disappointing... don't play itÂ
I don't mean that in any negative way at all. If the game isn't appealing after playing it, find something else. I would council that you look at the interactions you have been having and see if the game itself is disappointing or if the interactions with other people aren't matching what you are used to, and that is causing disappointment.
Really though, there are lots of great and different games out there. If this one isn't for you, find one that is!
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Also, coming from another woman. I think it's very important that when you -are- spending time with her, that it's about her and the time you're spending with her is about things you guys have in common and have mutual feelings about. We sometimes feel the need to compete for our boyfriends time and that can be toxic. If she isn't wanting try FFXIV at all despite your efforts, then be sure not to bring it up when you two are having quality time. I can't speak for her, since I don't know her and I'm only speaking from experience and other girl talk. It's possible that when you talk about the game when it's time for her that she can grow to resent the game, and try to compete with it for your attention which could make things even more stressful. Good luck with everything though, I'm sure it could get better once she understands how important your gaming time is to you.
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