(10-12-2017, 12:00 PM)Zhavi Wrote: Plus, I dunno, it makes me sad when a player I'm getting to know oocly feels the need to mention things like "I have a spouse/SO, and I am invested in this relationship, and not looking for ooc romance" -- because they've had bad experiences with other players not being able to separate that ooc/ic boundary. Building up a great rp partnership takes a lot of time and effort. It sucks to have to drop it for ooc reasons like persistent and unwelcome romantic interest. Hell, I tend to actively dissuade most ooc communications because of how many second-hand horror stories I've heard ever since my wee teenager days of MUD and PBP rp.
Unfortunately I've had to tell people this; it's why I also put "NoERP/ROM" in my personal search tags. It's aggravating to deal with constantly; and while I have friends who's characters have been involved with my characters in the past- it's in part to the fact that I trust them not to be manipulative or creepy. They're also people I have known for years and aren't some rando searching for relationships.
So honestly red flags for me are mainly people who try to push the IC-relationship on me when I say I don't rp it. Manipulation and "guilt tripping" also throws up flags I've dealt with people who are clingy and over-sensitive and it usually ends with them guilt tripping me because I play other games or I'm not online when they demand it.
Nohni Vhaze || Khad Dotharl
