(07-23-2013, 01:50 PM)Razamir Lahoka Wrote: We can not take back anything that was hurtful that we said, even though I'm not exactly sure what these things were, but as it has been pointed out, our opinions have seemed insulting to some.I think I can help.
You see, when discussing a topic or refuting someone's comment, it's usually in bad form to mock and insult people, and generally approach others in an angry and hostile tone and manner for the purposes of expressing an opinion. This is especially the case when it's possible that the target of this reaction may have misconstrued their intentions. Most of communication, after all, has less to do with what is said than how it's said. The tone and such.
And perhaps the tone of these angrier posts was also misconstrued, but a number of people had the same reaction to those, and the insults were definitely real.
All told, I wasn't involved in that debacle at all, but I read the whole thing. You yourself don't appear to me to be the one who got inflammatory. I don't know if you should be apologizing for both you and Rhynka, especially if you're not sure what was said that made things in that last thread go so pear-shaped.
Personally I don't think that saving face is a very brave maneuver like other people here do. No one wants to be persecuted, after all. However, the fact that you made a whole new thread to acknowledge that something went wrong and express remorse for that is a pretty decent thing to do.
It's not the courage that is important, I think, so much as it is the degree of self-awareness that this shows. In a community like this one where for the most part we much moderate ourselves, self-awareness is something that decent people ought to have. I believe you when you say that you didn't mean to cause upset or harm, and for my part I'm not gonna hold it against you.
