(09-11-2013, 03:34 PM)Siobhain Wrote:(09-11-2013, 03:29 PM)IncubusManatee Wrote: A very good point you have pointed out, Sio. *Yoda voice*
Though on your last part:
Caring about people-not the RP characters-but the actual people behind them is not a negative thing. Making friend's outside JUST the game is not an issue-but when you blur the line between being friends and MORE then that due to the RP in question is where things get more dicey.
As you said, set border's, communicate. Etc.etc.
Caring too much, I think, becomes a problem. When you start to feel involved in their IC drama or OOC drama, it becomes difficult to maintain a friendship and remain unbiased and not allow things to affect your RP.
The borders and communication before hand poses a little bit of an issue for me. Using Ronberku's method as an example-- many people want things to develop slowly over time. I do too! I'll be honest. If someone tells me OOCly before we RP that they want a romantic relationship with my character ONLY if I'll be their girlfriend... I'm... probably... going to... avoid that. I mean, it's hypocritical for me to say it but I know that it won't end well. Similarly, I like to know before hand, if it's possible, whether or not the person RPing a character that my toon might be interested in (even if there's just a sliiiiim hope) isn't going to be crazy and angry and verbally abusive OOC later. I'd like to just let it go as it goes but I hate retconning and sometimes it's just inevitable when relationships ICly go awry.
You make another good point.
Can't really argue against it, (Since I love playing devil's advocate) as I have felt first hand what happens when things become "Too Close" and the person's OOC/IC Drama begins to ruin your actual daily life, or RP, or anything involving them. Or those involved in the situation.
And yeah, it's bordering on creepy when someone say's: "Can I be your boyfriend/girlfriend" as a pre-req to Romance in RP. Maybe in certain circumstances, such as knowing that person for year's and such-mayyyyyyyybe. Really big maaaayyyyyyyybeeeee.
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