(10-01-2013, 03:52 PM)PerkPrincess Wrote: So, looking through this thread and there's a lot of generic talk about people BEING offended, but there's very little talk about what's actually being said that is offensive? Because there's a world of difference between the two, and we should be focusing on what's actually being said before any rational discussion is being had.
Like if someone's getting mad when you say fuck, yes, that's a little silly.
But if people are offended at you for making a rape joke or making a joke of something massively triggering to someone - then yes, actually, they should be offended and you're kind of a butt for going "DON'T BE OFFENDED."
Because - you know. There's some things we should not be making fun of.
That happened to a friend of mine. She was in a party and some of the other players were making -constant- rape jokes, talking about getting "raped" by the boss and everything. She told them pretty calmly that she found that offensive, could they please stop talking that way? And the other players tore her apart. They claimed that "getting raped" was just a gamer term and she insisted that it was bothering her. So they started taunting her. Asking her if she had been raped before, telling her she had no life, etc.
THAT is the kind of behavior that I find offensive. The things the NPCs say, things that people say in character, it does not bother me, but when players act like -that- is when I get bothered.