I'm with Liadan, this gives me the creeps. There is 100% no reason to talk about RL genders. The idea that you would only RP with someone if you are sexually attracted to the person behind the keyboard is exactly the kind of toxic view that makes the whole community look bad.
Whatever you're doing with this event, I don't think it's RP.
Whatever you're doing with this event, I don't think it's RP.