(02-05-2014, 04:23 AM)nariko Wrote: [quote pid=76651 dateline=1391542347]
This is a community player event that has role play elements in it. And I brought it to ffxiv-roleplayers.com because I thought it would be a perfect way to bridge a gap between two communities in XIV which are sometimes miss-understood on both sides. As stated in one of my previous posts. We released the genders of our Maids & Mistresses specifically for players that are not role players and may not feel comfortable participating in flirtatious actions not knowing if they were interacting with the opposite or same sex. While most of the RP'ers here seem to not care about the player's sex, this is not the case for the player base as a whole. We have received numerous questions between Guildwork, Reddit, XIVPads, and the Official Forums inquiring if our Maids were actual females and Hosts were actual males. I see no reason to hide this information from those who ask which could lead into them feeling as if they were fooled or lied too. Of course, our Maids & Hosts have agreed and given consent that this information was needed to be shared. For example, we have three males who are playing female characters. Whether you believe it or not, I firmly believe this opens up a wider audience of participants for this event and we will carry the event out this way regardless.
You're totally entitled to your opinion. Â But your opinion is incredibly misguided.
If someone cares about the RL gender of the person they are RPing with, they're not there for RP.  They're there to get their perverbial rocks off, and they're interested in the actual player behind the persona.  Why is this bad?  Because, miss, when you can't distinguish between reality and fantasy (which is precisely what happens when Out of Character and In Character are mixed), you need to put the game down and walk away.  That's not a healthy place to be mentally, and it's certainly not a healthy place for participants in an online game who are ostensibly role-playing (but not???? ) to be.
There is zero reason for someone to care about the RL gender of the person they are role playing with unless it's not role play.
Now, you can try to play both sides of the field, and claim that it is role play, but it isn't role play, and it's okay because it's this cutesy Japanese thing, but what it boils down to is you are selling the attention of real people based on their genitals. Â Which isn't role play and shouldn't ever be referred as anything remotely related to role play. Â Events like this give role players a bad name.
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Love Love Star Maids & Hosts have been carefully selected with this in mind. We've specifically chosen our Maids & Hosts who have proven to hold their own against anything Eorzea has to throw at them. This includes but is not limited to:
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But thank you for your concerns. Just so you all know, we have updated our Main Thread containing our Rules & Guidelines for the event. Our Maids & Hosts will be using this as a strategic guideline to deal with harassment just the same as when we have developed strategies to deal with some of the Eorzea's most vile foes.
It's cute that you're not taking anything I'm saying seriously, but your response is, quite frankly, trite bullshit. Â It doesn't matter whether your intrepid hosts have been able to "hold their own" against harassment, stalking, and other really fucking creepy things. Â What matters is that you are deliberately causing them to have further exposure to the threat of harassment, stalking, slander, and worse by revealing their RL gender and selling their time based on whether they have a dick or a vagina. Â What matters is that your people shouldn't have to deal with this in the first place, and wouldn't have to deal with this if you hadn't revealed RL information about them on the goddamned internet. Â If you don't think this is an issue in an online game, you are either willfully ignorant or naive.
I've been playing massively multi-player games for over a decade now, and I can tell you without a doubt that things that wouldn't happen at one of those cafes will happen online. Â Creepers will harass your people because they now know - thanks to you! - what gender the player actually is. Â The anonymity of the internet gives otherwise cowardly little shits the "internet courage" to become creepy little stalkers, and worse.
I'll be real curious what you guys do the first time someone wants one of your girls or guys to "voice verify." Â After all, why should they trust you? Â Are you gonna have your Hosts and Hostesses voice verify so that the dudebros on the internet know that they're not playing hanky panky with another dude?
Seriously, either it's RP or it's not. Â If you're telling people RL information about the participants, it's not RP. Â And if it's not RP, it quite frankly doesn't belong on these forums. Â You're just advertising for what amounts to a cyber den.