Something like this, though to a very minor degree happened with me recently as well. It was more the situation that I met someone IC and at first, they were very friendly and nice, but... As the conversation continued, they kept making little gestures which may seem small to some, but my character is a very shy sort who is unaccustomed to socializing and especially flirtation. She believes that certain displays of affection should only be shown to someone special, when the gesture has "meaning". This person kept reaching for her hand, or making a note to say that he would take her hand when they began to walk somewhere else. This person was practically acting as though they already had a romantic connection/responsibility over mine. Even after making it clear very early on that it made her uncomfortable in IC chat, this person would start all over again after a few minutes of backing off.
Perhaps it was my own fault for continuing to speak to this person? I figured (OOC) that if the person really was looking for something and I shot them down once, twice, or even three times, they would either get the hint and just be friendly, or back off and pursue someone elsewhere as people like that tend to do when they see no potential here. But they acted like they were fine with just being friendly. But they would back off, and then start the affectionate touches again, she would shy away, they would back off, rinse and repeat...
Usually, I enjoy it when romance develops slowly and naturally. I know that not all romances happen at a snail's pace, but I appreciate it more when time is spent nurturing the relationship, rather than "Hello! I like you! Let's make out and be a couple now!" As Zhavi mentioned, everyone has their own idea of what is fun, so I guess there will be those out there who prefer RP romance to anything else, and will do what they can to establish a connection as quickly as they can so they can just rush into the benefits of the relationship they're looking for. I don't really know why there is a mentality like that, but it's there. I can understand and appreciate that reality. I just wish that those same people could realize that not all RPers are after the same thing, and would refrain from the guilt tripping when they get shut down...
Perhaps it was my own fault for continuing to speak to this person? I figured (OOC) that if the person really was looking for something and I shot them down once, twice, or even three times, they would either get the hint and just be friendly, or back off and pursue someone elsewhere as people like that tend to do when they see no potential here. But they acted like they were fine with just being friendly. But they would back off, and then start the affectionate touches again, she would shy away, they would back off, rinse and repeat...
Usually, I enjoy it when romance develops slowly and naturally. I know that not all romances happen at a snail's pace, but I appreciate it more when time is spent nurturing the relationship, rather than "Hello! I like you! Let's make out and be a couple now!" As Zhavi mentioned, everyone has their own idea of what is fun, so I guess there will be those out there who prefer RP romance to anything else, and will do what they can to establish a connection as quickly as they can so they can just rush into the benefits of the relationship they're looking for. I don't really know why there is a mentality like that, but it's there. I can understand and appreciate that reality. I just wish that those same people could realize that not all RPers are after the same thing, and would refrain from the guilt tripping when they get shut down...
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