(07-18-2014, 12:13 AM)Verad Wrote: I have, in the past, had a couple of players push romance on my characters quite heavily - not this character, because have you seen him? - and in at least one instance, the person was explicitly doing so because they were lacking a specific kind of emotional connection outside of the game, and said as much. It's not fun, it can lead to quite a bit of guilt and hurt feelings, and the OP shouldn't just wait for the stalker to leave her alone, but actively discourage it."Naturally," at least in the context I meant it, means actually meeting a character through RP, getting a feel for their character, becoming acquainted and then seeing where the story takes them. Obviously people have to "click" OOC for it to work, and of course it's going to be driven in part by whether or not you like the potential IC partner's writing style and so on and so forth. I don't think that's an issue.
That said, I think all RP romance is "pushed" to some degree. I'm actually highly suspicious of the notion that it can happen naturally. Â *snip for brevity's sake*
However, when I say I prefer any of my character's romances not to be "pushed," I mean literally. Example: not too long ago a friend of mine, almost as soon as she joined this forum and created a wiki page for her character, received a PM out of the blue asking if she'd like to roleplay a relationship with the sender. Just like that. Harmless? Maybe. Maybe not. But for me, personally, that's not the type of flow I would like to have for an IC partnership, and is a behavior of which I am highly suspicious.
I may be fairly new to RP here on FFXIV, but overall I've been at this for a long time - close to 20 years counting all the MUDs I roleplayed on in my teens - and I guess you could say I'm fairly set in my ways by now. There are just certain things I avoid based upon those past experiences; OOC pre-planning of that sort happens to be one of 'em.
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