Ah, I am really, really late to this thread so what can I say here that hasn't already been said but im not angst-ing on.
Most of my RP experiences come from forums, and I had to learn the hard way at one point that powerplaying and forcing stuff on other players or fellow RPers is generally not cool.
With that being said, does anybody here really bother to ask how much experience the other person has at role playing? I mean, you can often find these things out easily by checking things, such as if they has a good wiki or something of their character, or you carefully examine their typing for spelling and grammar. Granted that master role players do make mistakes in typing just like all other RPers, but consistent typing mistakes signals that they are probably fairly new to RP so if they are acting weird or erratic, its a good idea just to talk to them in OOC. Ask them basic questions such as how long they have been RPing or do they have a character wiki. Asking these simple things, just communicating OOCly goes to so much length to clear tension and misunderstandings. Just taking the time to explain to them goes a long way and shows that youre not wanting to shut them out of RPing with you, you just want a standard, totally platonic relationship and if they dont agree with you then part with them, be it IC or OOC. If you cant reason with them then its best to just ignore.
As for the topic of Sexual encounter RP's, they are extremely easy and conventional things to RP and relationships are the easiest thing too talk about. I wish the creators of FFXIV would just sit down for two months and write us a damned book of lore so that way we can do stuff other than talk about sex in a tavern but until then, thats all thats ever going to be talked about in a tavern is sex, because a tavern is a bar and people go to bars to get drunk with their friends or bed men/women. It goes without saying that if people are romance RPing with you in a tavern then its because of the environmental factors and the fact that you yourself are there. Its not just one party's fault but both, one for enabling the enviorment and the other for initiating the advances. Now im not saying you are at fault, if you reject the advances of another player but they wont stop then you have a right to be angry and blacklist them or whatever, im just making this fair by pointing out both sides of the picture.
I personally have NEVER, EVER, EVER, even under the pain of my own distraught mortality, ever attempt a romance or accept one which is too aggressive. Relationships form naturally in two ways: the first is through time and commitment to seeing both characters form a bond with each other, the other happens spontaneously and can turn out great but most of the time does not.
I love talking about shipping characters OOCly. Its fun. What person in their right mind wouldn't think about it to at least some extent, but when people force the ships is where the line is drawn. Ships are only cool and funny when everyone doesn't take it seriously and laughs about it but when someone gets serious then everyone needs to drop that hot mess because it can turn ugly quickly when someone brings a ship and forces it in OOC.
This next part I admit at my own peril but as an example IRL, im extremely platonic with relationships of the other gender. I dont much care for sex, I dont care about being in a relationship. I enjoy platonic relationships because nothing changes. If people go beyond the stage of being platonic then they risk upsetting the entire fundamental boundary as to which that friendship exists. Potentially getting in a relationship IRL and in a game can completely destroy if not outright alienate players from each other as well as in real life between people.
Romance both in-game and IRL, despite its popularity and how easy it is to talk about this stuff, is extremely hot and destructive by its very nature and tears people apart. I think its just our primal instincts or thousands of years worth of genetic coding running though our blood, dictating not only what we think and say, but what we want to do or the way we think and do things.
I hope this is constructive enough of a post to talk about. I spent forty minutes typing it and ten minutes trying to spell it at 2:30 am in the morning.  ._.
Most of my RP experiences come from forums, and I had to learn the hard way at one point that powerplaying and forcing stuff on other players or fellow RPers is generally not cool.
With that being said, does anybody here really bother to ask how much experience the other person has at role playing? I mean, you can often find these things out easily by checking things, such as if they has a good wiki or something of their character, or you carefully examine their typing for spelling and grammar. Granted that master role players do make mistakes in typing just like all other RPers, but consistent typing mistakes signals that they are probably fairly new to RP so if they are acting weird or erratic, its a good idea just to talk to them in OOC. Ask them basic questions such as how long they have been RPing or do they have a character wiki. Asking these simple things, just communicating OOCly goes to so much length to clear tension and misunderstandings. Just taking the time to explain to them goes a long way and shows that youre not wanting to shut them out of RPing with you, you just want a standard, totally platonic relationship and if they dont agree with you then part with them, be it IC or OOC. If you cant reason with them then its best to just ignore.
As for the topic of Sexual encounter RP's, they are extremely easy and conventional things to RP and relationships are the easiest thing too talk about. I wish the creators of FFXIV would just sit down for two months and write us a damned book of lore so that way we can do stuff other than talk about sex in a tavern but until then, thats all thats ever going to be talked about in a tavern is sex, because a tavern is a bar and people go to bars to get drunk with their friends or bed men/women. It goes without saying that if people are romance RPing with you in a tavern then its because of the environmental factors and the fact that you yourself are there. Its not just one party's fault but both, one for enabling the enviorment and the other for initiating the advances. Now im not saying you are at fault, if you reject the advances of another player but they wont stop then you have a right to be angry and blacklist them or whatever, im just making this fair by pointing out both sides of the picture.
I personally have NEVER, EVER, EVER, even under the pain of my own distraught mortality, ever attempt a romance or accept one which is too aggressive. Relationships form naturally in two ways: the first is through time and commitment to seeing both characters form a bond with each other, the other happens spontaneously and can turn out great but most of the time does not.
I love talking about shipping characters OOCly. Its fun. What person in their right mind wouldn't think about it to at least some extent, but when people force the ships is where the line is drawn. Ships are only cool and funny when everyone doesn't take it seriously and laughs about it but when someone gets serious then everyone needs to drop that hot mess because it can turn ugly quickly when someone brings a ship and forces it in OOC.
This next part I admit at my own peril but as an example IRL, im extremely platonic with relationships of the other gender. I dont much care for sex, I dont care about being in a relationship. I enjoy platonic relationships because nothing changes. If people go beyond the stage of being platonic then they risk upsetting the entire fundamental boundary as to which that friendship exists. Potentially getting in a relationship IRL and in a game can completely destroy if not outright alienate players from each other as well as in real life between people.
Romance both in-game and IRL, despite its popularity and how easy it is to talk about this stuff, is extremely hot and destructive by its very nature and tears people apart. I think its just our primal instincts or thousands of years worth of genetic coding running though our blood, dictating not only what we think and say, but what we want to do or the way we think and do things.
I hope this is constructive enough of a post to talk about. I spent forty minutes typing it and ten minutes trying to spell it at 2:30 am in the morning.  ._.
