Truth be told, I've somehow managed to dodge the creepers and stalkers I keep hearing about. Â The only online stalker I've ever had was actually a female member of my first "semi-serious" raiding guild I joined in WoW. Â When I left and publicly stated that I was leaving, in part, because of how she treated people in raid, she lost her shit. Â Next thing I know, there are alts being made on other servers where I play, whispering me obscene things and basically verbally abusing me on several different level 1 characters - sometimes while I was in raids!
But it wasn't anything sexual in terms of her fixation. Â She was just nuts.
I believe in using my Blacklist/Ignore function early and often, and reporting people who step over the line (she ended up banned for the harassment she did against me both on the forums and in-game).
That said, when I was RPing in SecondLife, I repeatedly ran into situations where people simply could not separate OOC and IC interactions.  No matter how many notices I put in my profile that I was not, in any way, interested in an OOC relationship, people still pushed me in private messages.  And that was the semi-decent players.  The really terrible ones would just send what amounted to gibberish that resembled a really awkward 13 year old trying to ask a girl out.  ¯\(°_o)/¯
I personally don't see anything wrong with romantic/sexual/erotic RP. Â What people do in the privacy of their IMs is none of my damn business, and, quite honestly, sex is a big part of a lot of people's lives, so it's no surprise that would show up in RP. Â But I do understand that sometimes emotions get squished on by what happens in-game, even though it's never been an issue for me personally (when I dated an RPer, our characters had relationships with other characters, and it never bothered me, because it was RP).
But, of course, there are people who just aren't really stable. Â There are people who are using RP to make up for their own issues in their real life. Â And there are people who simply aren't living in reality, and are using RP as an escape. Â There are people who simply can't separate what they want in character from what they want out of character, much less realize that what happens in character is no reflection on what exists out of character.
Those people are crazy.
I really don't mean it as an insult, but it IS insanity to mix in character and out of character. Â What I do in character has no bearing on who I am in real life. Â And what I do out of character should have no bearing on what my character does/reacts/feels/whatever. Â When the two are mixing, nothing good comes from it. Â Just bad, bad, bad juju.
And since this entire situation seems to fall into the crazy category, OP, I'm gonna give you a side of advice:
1) Put the creeper on your Blacklist. Â No, go do it. Â It doesn't matter if they don't understand why - you need to understand that you don't owe them (or anyone else) an explanation.
2) If they try to contact you by circumventing the blacklist, report them. Â Report them every time they do this. Â Keep records. Build a case.
3) Be persistent. Â If the harassment is ongoing, make sure you keep reporting it until someone listens.
4) In the future, try very hard to be more up-front about your comfort level. Â The moment you start feeling uncomfortable with something, you should really speak up. Â I know that it can be extremely tough to say, "Hey, I'm really not comfortable with this" when you don't want to piss someone off or are worried about hurting their feelings. Â But, if your RP partner at the time gets upset that you're bringing up something that's bothering you, or telling them that you're uncomfortable with what's going on, they're not the RP partner for you.
Just my $0.02
But it wasn't anything sexual in terms of her fixation. Â She was just nuts.
I believe in using my Blacklist/Ignore function early and often, and reporting people who step over the line (she ended up banned for the harassment she did against me both on the forums and in-game).
That said, when I was RPing in SecondLife, I repeatedly ran into situations where people simply could not separate OOC and IC interactions.  No matter how many notices I put in my profile that I was not, in any way, interested in an OOC relationship, people still pushed me in private messages.  And that was the semi-decent players.  The really terrible ones would just send what amounted to gibberish that resembled a really awkward 13 year old trying to ask a girl out.  ¯\(°_o)/¯
I personally don't see anything wrong with romantic/sexual/erotic RP. Â What people do in the privacy of their IMs is none of my damn business, and, quite honestly, sex is a big part of a lot of people's lives, so it's no surprise that would show up in RP. Â But I do understand that sometimes emotions get squished on by what happens in-game, even though it's never been an issue for me personally (when I dated an RPer, our characters had relationships with other characters, and it never bothered me, because it was RP).
But, of course, there are people who just aren't really stable. Â There are people who are using RP to make up for their own issues in their real life. Â And there are people who simply aren't living in reality, and are using RP as an escape. Â There are people who simply can't separate what they want in character from what they want out of character, much less realize that what happens in character is no reflection on what exists out of character.
Those people are crazy.
I really don't mean it as an insult, but it IS insanity to mix in character and out of character. Â What I do in character has no bearing on who I am in real life. Â And what I do out of character should have no bearing on what my character does/reacts/feels/whatever. Â When the two are mixing, nothing good comes from it. Â Just bad, bad, bad juju.
And since this entire situation seems to fall into the crazy category, OP, I'm gonna give you a side of advice:
1) Put the creeper on your Blacklist. Â No, go do it. Â It doesn't matter if they don't understand why - you need to understand that you don't owe them (or anyone else) an explanation.
2) If they try to contact you by circumventing the blacklist, report them. Â Report them every time they do this. Â Keep records. Build a case.
3) Be persistent. Â If the harassment is ongoing, make sure you keep reporting it until someone listens.
4) In the future, try very hard to be more up-front about your comfort level. Â The moment you start feeling uncomfortable with something, you should really speak up. Â I know that it can be extremely tough to say, "Hey, I'm really not comfortable with this" when you don't want to piss someone off or are worried about hurting their feelings. Â But, if your RP partner at the time gets upset that you're bringing up something that's bothering you, or telling them that you're uncomfortable with what's going on, they're not the RP partner for you.
Just my $0.02
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