Quote:Do you mind if others add advice to this thread?
Quote:And I don't know about anyone else or the OP, but I would love to see what others have for tips or advice.
Please do! I didn't realize I would spark so many great reactions. The idea that so many people would be so eager to jump in and help others with their shyness just drives my point home.
Quote:This is really useful to someone like me. I always feel so awkward and I blank on what to approach people and say. It wouldn't be too hard to just ask if this spot is open or lean on the railing and just say hello and why are you here.
(06-10-2014, 11:23 AM)Rurutani Wrote:(06-10-2014, 11:22 AM)Aya Wrote: Breaking the ice is the hardest part!This......x1000000000000
Quote:Early on, Kage was given the best IC advice ever that I've tried to use OOCly as well. "Fake it." Either fake not being shy until it changes or continue to fake it as needed.
Exactly! Fake it until you make it.
Quote:Here's an easy way to break the ice, I use this as Hornet a lot:
Walk up to someone, address them directly, and mistake them for someone else (preferably some person from your past, a childhood acquaintance maybe). When they correct you the situation can be a humorous little chance to strike up a conversation. "Wow you look just like an old friend of mine..." can lead to all sorts of good stuff.
That's a great idea. It's an action that calls for a reaction. Interaction is good story telling. The fact that they have to correct you means you've accomplished your mission: interacting with other role players. It gives you an opportunity to hint at a little piece of your back story, which most role players will jump at the chance to help you expand on.
I can admit to feeling The Dread set in after posting this up. You know, "Pssh, no one's gonna like this, they're all gonna be like, 'Who's this guy?'" But again, that's the meta lesson. I had to stick my neck out there before I could know it would be worth it. In short, take this whole thread as evidence that you aren't the only shy person in the world, and we're all out here ready to meet you, greet you, and support you. Thanks for all the support, everybody.