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Kage · **12-02-2014, 02:06 PM**

I've had instances where sometimes someone will /em me and I don't notice because I've been using my second monitor or things scroll too quickly that I don't notice it til later. And then it's too late :/ And then I /cry

/tells are the best bet because they also come with a nice sound message and they also are a much different color than what I have for /say and /em because they're usually for RP so I have them color-coded that way...

And then other times it's like that awkward thing where you see someone in real life. You both look into each others' eyes. And you don't know if they're actually saying hi and giving you a nod in greeting or if it's... just... courtesy...

g0ne · **12-02-2014, 02:06 PM**

(12-02-2014, 01:45 PM)Melodia Wrote: Thank you for your input all.

I...think some of this thread actually made me more depressed, if that's possible? @_@

Woe be to me!! I have failed!! Failed to cheer you up!!Â Frustrated

*buries self in quilt and curses self*

...

That aside, lighten up, chill, relax. 'Tis nothing. Do you want chocolate? I have a Galaxy bar within arm's length. Smile

Aeylis Bloodbinder · **12-02-2014, 02:21 PM**

Eh honestly, you should treat most people from MMO's like one-stands because they tend to be quite similar. Â It's way easier for them to use and abuse, then throw away since its the internet.Â

I'd honestly suggest, for your sake, to just take people with a grain of salt upon meeting them. Hell, maybe not even adding them immediately. Â Wait for a few encounters, then make a decision if you should befriend them. Â Honestly, if you don't bump into them without them being on your friendslist, it might be a bit of trouble to try to ever coordinate RP times, or even social times.

As soon as someone stops talking to me by about 80%, I normally get wary and throw them on the //I-guess-you're-just-a-random-now/// list and eventually erase them.

i know its hard to sometimes shake the feels, but you just gotta think that most are just lame people on the internet, not worthy of your time.

Parvacake · **12-02-2014, 02:25 PM**

(12-02-2014, 02:06 PM)Eleni Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 01:45 PM)Melodia Wrote: Thank you for your input all.

I...think some of this thread actually made me more depressed, if that's possible? @_@

Woe be to me!! I have failed!! Failed to cheer you up!!Â

*buries self in quilt and curses self*

...

That aside, lighten up, chill, relax. 'Tis nothing. Do you want chocolate? I have a Galaxy bar within arm's length.

Don't let it get you down Smile

And take the candy!

I've gone through the same thing as you, Mel. Though it hasn't happened to me recently (last person I think was near the beginning of the summer), I just try to take it in stride. Especially if you ask someone to do something and they're like 'nah, don't feel like it', then do it with someone else, best to shake it off. Or, hell, even ask for clarification. If they blatantly ignore you at that point, best to chug forward.

But usually best to ask straight up. I'll admit to being oversensitive in some areas so I usually ask bluntly just to see. And if asking bluntly gets you no where or they don't even respond, etc. then focus on those that give you the time of day Smile

But also keep in mind sometimes people get in a weird mood and semi isolate themselves with one or two people that help them the best with whatever they're going through personally. In those instances, it's never anything personal unless said otherwise.

Aris · **12-02-2014, 02:38 PM**

I haven't really anything insightful to add but, just to say, I know how you're feeling.Â Blush

McBeefâ„¢ · **12-02-2014, 02:42 PM**

People come and go!

Though it's always exciting to see an orange name you haven't seen in forever.

Lots of people have complicated real life situations, and I don't judge too much. It's only a game, after all.

Kellach Woods · **12-02-2014, 03:11 PM**

I'd say one of the reasons why I don't interact with a lot of folks at a time. Usually what happens is I take it personally when they never bother to talk to me again, and initiating is like a no-no because I figure if they wanted to talk to me they'd do so.

**Unnamed Mercenary** · **12-02-2014, 03:18 PM**

(12-02-2014, 03:11 PM)Kellach Woods Wrote: I'd say one of the reasons why I don't interact with a lot of folks at a time. Usually what happens is I take it personally when they never bother to talk to me again, and initiating is like a no-no because I figure if they wanted to talk to me they'd do so.

But what if they have that -exact- same mentality? Two people waiting for the other will be a very, very, very quiet encounter. Â Someone's gotta start a conversation somewhere, right?

K'nahli · **12-02-2014, 03:25 PM**

Throughout all of the online games I've played, in most cases, if not all, then 90%+ of my friends list are usually people I don't have much interaction with if any at all. If people want to add me to their friend's list then I'd feel rude to reject it normally so I merely accept it, even if I found them nice when I met them; though I'm not always in the state of mind where I just want to socialise and become closer with new people. I have always been someone who holds a few close friends and then holds everyone else more or less to the same degree.

Having said that, I'd never deliberately mistreat anyone, even those people who go out of their way to be super friendly to you when in reality you have no interest in being their friend(without meaning to sound mean, but it's just not how it works with me personally).

Kage · **12-02-2014, 03:30 PM**

(12-02-2014, 03:11 PM)Kellach Woods Wrote: because I figure if they wanted to talk to me they'd do so.

This is me.

And this is why many people who may want to converse with me probably never do.

Melodia · **12-02-2014, 03:31 PM**

My main concern is, I am a pretty lonely person irl and somewhat in the game. Because of poor interactions with many and people generally not talking, I end up taking things so very personally even though I shouldn't. I latch onto the smallest kindness as it makes me feel good irl. Like a little cure spell in a dungeon run. *bling* +342

But because I take it personally, I get this fragile mentality and it //does// affect my rp as I get leary of approaching new people. Saying hello IC to a stranger? EEEP!! *runs*

Like a vicious cycle. Frustrated

Steel Wolf · **12-02-2014, 03:41 PM**

Eeeeyup, I know where you're at. It's worse when one enjoys playing the leading classes like tanking because you're expected to be a spear point in the assault and you're just saddled with worry that you'll be awful in front in front of all of these strangers and OHGAWD HALP!!

So...yea...you find a random act of kindness and kinda cling on. Maybe get a bit disappointed when it wasn't really a deeper connection attempt.

I guess my suggestion to you would be to just...poke around if you can. Here on the RPC is a good place to start. Find some people who you interact with. Maybe see if you can't meet them in-game. I'm not saying kick down the doors and break in to a Bob Fosse number to make an impression, but just explore options. Sniff around, timidly if need be.

Speaking for at least myself, I'm more than always open to some random interaction, here or in-game, IC'ly or otherwise. For serious. I'm awash in this game, lost and kinda feeling alone, behind a curve and hiding in a crowd. It absolutely sucks, and I am MORE than willing to be a person you can reach out to for the hell of it.

Seriously.

<3

Aris · **12-02-2014, 03:45 PM**

(12-02-2014, 03:18 PM)Unnamed Mercenary Wrote:
(12-02-2014, 03:11 PM)Kellach Woods Wrote: I'd say one of the reasons why I don't interact with a lot of folks at a time. Usually what happens is I take it personally when they never bother to talk to me again, and initiating is like a no-no because I figure if they wanted to talk to me they'd do so.

But what if they have that -exact- same mentality? Two people waiting for the other will be a very, very, very quiet encounter. Â Someone's gotta start a conversation somewhere, right?

Â
Also, a relationship takes two. If it's always me instigating conversation, it would put me off that they aren't making any effort, or suggest that they don't want to talk any further.

Melodia · **12-02-2014, 03:49 PM**

(12-02-2014, 03:45 PM)Aris Wrote: Â
Also, a relationship takes two. If it's always me instigating conversation, it would put me off that they aren't making any effort, or suggest that they don't want to talk any further.

^ This. Especially that second sentence. If I am trying and making every effort but continue to get walls or silence, I can't help but take that as a giant middle finger to me.

Yhen Yizeh · **12-02-2014, 04:11 PM**

People are fickle and only really care about what you're doing for them now, not what you have done.

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