(04-29-2015, 12:11 PM)Zyrusticae Wrote: snip
Show Content
Spoiled for real talk
Did you hear about Rachel Bryk this week? I knew her. We operated in the same spheres, and while I respected the everloving fuck out of her, we often found ourselves on the opposite side of the discussion vis a vis gender politics and expectations.
Do not for a single second tell me that I don't understand. Google her if you don't know what I'm talking about.
What you're discussing is the biggest tripping point that people in common culture hit upon when this topic comes up: Your stance isn't unreasonable, but you're presenting it in a way that screams "You must change things to appease me." By your own admissions there are other games doing what you want better than XIV does - You referenced like two dozen things in the Au Ra thread. But apparently they don't offer you the game you want? And the game you want doesn't offer you the customization you want.
You're expecting cutting-edge social politics from a Japanese developer regarding bucking the socially-imposed gender standards that have been common place in video games since they existed. You're upset that there isn't a safe place for you in a game world that never suggested it would ever be a safe space for you. You sound in your own head like you're asking for equality. To everyone else you're whining about not being treated special. Yes, I realize this is the crux of the argument.
There are places where you can get what you want. I'm sorry XIV seemingly isn't one of them, but the game never pretended to be anything except what it is. I realize this is disappointing for you, but that is unlikely to change in the future, and to be terribly honest? You scare the shit out of me sometimes. I see a lot of Hey in you, and knowing what I do about that now I am legit concerned.
You need to understand that my ire isn't aimed at you. I'm just discussing the topic. I understand the two are inextricably connected. When you say things like
you don't do yourself any favors. I understand a lot better than you think I do.
Did you hear about Rachel Bryk this week? I knew her. We operated in the same spheres, and while I respected the everloving fuck out of her, we often found ourselves on the opposite side of the discussion vis a vis gender politics and expectations.
Do not for a single second tell me that I don't understand. Google her if you don't know what I'm talking about.
What you're discussing is the biggest tripping point that people in common culture hit upon when this topic comes up: Your stance isn't unreasonable, but you're presenting it in a way that screams "You must change things to appease me." By your own admissions there are other games doing what you want better than XIV does - You referenced like two dozen things in the Au Ra thread. But apparently they don't offer you the game you want? And the game you want doesn't offer you the customization you want.
You're expecting cutting-edge social politics from a Japanese developer regarding bucking the socially-imposed gender standards that have been common place in video games since they existed. You're upset that there isn't a safe place for you in a game world that never suggested it would ever be a safe space for you. You sound in your own head like you're asking for equality. To everyone else you're whining about not being treated special. Yes, I realize this is the crux of the argument.
There are places where you can get what you want. I'm sorry XIV seemingly isn't one of them, but the game never pretended to be anything except what it is. I realize this is disappointing for you, but that is unlikely to change in the future, and to be terribly honest? You scare the shit out of me sometimes. I see a lot of Hey in you, and knowing what I do about that now I am legit concerned.
You need to understand that my ire isn't aimed at you. I'm just discussing the topic. I understand the two are inextricably connected. When you say things like
Quote:I see that you don't understand at all. Of course you don't, as your position is fundamentally different from my own.
you don't do yourself any favors. I understand a lot better than you think I do.
This is all stupid and will probably get modded.