(01-08-2016, 10:43 AM)Melodia Wrote:(01-08-2016, 10:24 AM)Warren Castille Wrote:Editing my quote to try and make some point only confuses my initial one. The way you've written it makes it look like the hurt was malicious or intentional. The fact is, nobody owns each other's characters. if the owner of a character wants to kill off a character that's their prerogative. It's no different than someone lapsing their account and disappearing for months and months only to suddenly return. We're told in those cases to "adapt and try to find other rp." I say the same for folks who choose to have their characters killed. Act like an adult and understand that fictional character is no longer around and find new rp.(01-08-2016, 10:14 AM)Melodia Wrote: Friends and other players might mourn but its completely unfair to end or damage RL friendships over fiction. It'd be like me saying or doing hurtful things to other people, then not understanding how my behavior upset them.
You can't blame people you've made bonds with for being upset that one party decided to snip those bonds. It's not their fault your actions hurt them.
Not malicious or intentional, but most likely willfully ignorant. How would your friends or coworkers feels if you just up and moved without telling anyone? As adults and/or mature people, we're supposed to be aware of our own accountability in our actions. If we do potentially hurtful things, we don't get to blame other people for being hurt because we didn't think it would upset them.
Again, not to say that some people won't overreact or handle things poorly, but ask Nat about the blow-up that came through sometime (or don't!). It affected a giant wave of characters who had to both process the fact a character was gone, as well as then having to handle the IC ramifications of how it happened. It got so bad that several people involved chose to pocket-retcon the incident itself because the fallout could have led to outright war as the only logical conclusion.
I get that roleplayers vis a vis roleplayers tend to have esteem issues, but we're all probably worth a lot more communally than we'd ever give ourselves credit for. Deciding to kill a character off without at least letting your IC or OOC friends know is the ultimate in "fuck you, I do what I want" routines.