I firmly believe that if you're in a relationship with someone then you should be open and honest with them. It's easy to brush off ERP as just ERP but I think it shows a major lack of respect if it's being done behind someone else's back.
I engage in ERP from time to time. Usually it's with my real life partner but occasionally it's with close friends instead. My partner knows this because I established boundaries in advance and made bloody sure that he was comfortable with it.
I'll be the first to claim that ERP is very different to blatant cyber as it typically revolves more around story driven erotica but...let's be honest here, most people who ERP do it in part for the sake of a sly wank as well as telling a good story in the process.
So that's my two penny's worth on the subject. Anyone who has been part of any active MMO role-playing community for a decent amount of time should know what sort of nasty drama can emerge from ERP gone wrong. It's worth establishing what is and isn't acceptable if you don't want it leaking into the real world and if you do go behind someone's back don't be surprised when it blows up in your face.
I engage in ERP from time to time. Usually it's with my real life partner but occasionally it's with close friends instead. My partner knows this because I established boundaries in advance and made bloody sure that he was comfortable with it.
I'll be the first to claim that ERP is very different to blatant cyber as it typically revolves more around story driven erotica but...let's be honest here, most people who ERP do it in part for the sake of a sly wank as well as telling a good story in the process.
So that's my two penny's worth on the subject. Anyone who has been part of any active MMO role-playing community for a decent amount of time should know what sort of nasty drama can emerge from ERP gone wrong. It's worth establishing what is and isn't acceptable if you don't want it leaking into the real world and if you do go behind someone's back don't be surprised when it blows up in your face.