A lot of people have graphics issues in the Black Shroud. It may work for you eventually, don't know how many times you tried. Maybe try opening ONLY ffxiv, lowering the graphics settings, etc.. Just get out of there as soon as you can! Other people who had similar issues got over it somehow. You can also delete this character and make a new one starting in another city.
As for your other questions, it depends on the RPers. Some RP in /party while being in public where technically others would be able to overhear, others keep /party RP for private scenarios like to RP within a house or HQ, because we have no housing, and keep RP in public channels otherwise.
The bigger RP stories and plots I assume vary in how accessible they are. A /tell asking about w/e the person is doing is prolly the best way to go about getting into something like that.
As for your other questions, it depends on the RPers. Some RP in /party while being in public where technically others would be able to overhear, others keep /party RP for private scenarios like to RP within a house or HQ, because we have no housing, and keep RP in public channels otherwise.
The bigger RP stories and plots I assume vary in how accessible they are. A /tell asking about w/e the person is doing is prolly the best way to go about getting into something like that.
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