(08-07-2013, 11:13 AM)Yeldir Melfusor Wrote: Now I think we're getting somewhere, Anna. Building on the premise that there's essentially no nice way of saying, "I'm taking my toys and going to that other kid's house, see ya!", imagine for a moment that many of the people you see trying to justify their move to Gilgamesh are sounding so standoffish because they can't think of a way to say why they're doing what they're doing that comes out sounding nice
Consider my thread on the official forums. I like to think I'm level-headed and eloquent, but it was a complete disaster, from the perspective of attracting attention and garnering excitement without alienating Balmung players. What I wrote was read by prospective Gilgamesh players as I had intended it, and read by career Balmung players as something way more malevolent than intended.
A good case example of the problem we're faced with. It is easy to say write one thing and have it read as another. This isn't anyone's fault, unless you were to blame the human species in its entirety.
I think that everyone is more than willing to accept the fact that people should have (and what's more, they DO have) the right to choose what server to go to. Straight up. If people want to go to Gilgamesh, please! By all means, go. I have no hard feelings towards Gilgamesh. I'm a little sad to see the community split up, but I have a feeling it'll survive.
I think the reason this thread has gone on for 12 pages is because, as you said, Gilgamesh people have been scrambling to come up with reasons that they think are more justifiable than "I just want to do it this way". The easiest way to do that is to say "Well. I have problems with Balmung." Obviously, Balmung people are going to ask what those problems are. And then we have people fumbling around and being defensive and things just snowball from there.
TL;DR: Just be honest. Even if your choice makes you unpopular to some people. Nobody will care in two weeks, lol.
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