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RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - allgivenover - 08-10-2013
I'm working on ways to get the word out for this, it kind of hinges on campus being crowded again come fall though.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - DimmerMeerkat - 08-10-2013
(08-10-2013, 10:26 PM)synaesthetic Wrote: Yeah I doubt I'd be that lucky. For one, I'm nowhere near as attractive as she is, and if you think that didn't help her then I've got some oceanfront property on Mars to sell you at a reasonable price. Secondly, the number of friends I have can be counted on one hand.You should check out the Jim Collins foundation. http://jimcollinsfoundation.org/ They award surgery grants to transpeople. I heard about them literally 3 days after the cutoff for this year's application period. They do it every year, so keep your eye on them.
Not really much chance of that ever happening. I've pretty much just resigned myself to being stuck like this forever. When you're poor, you have no power, no agency, no control over your life.
I have terrible credit or I'd take out a loan for this stuff. Til then, just gotta keep trying to fund! If you have someone who supports you strongly, or you yourself have some talent for marketing, you should still try doing a fundraiser. The one thing you can't do, though, is just open the fundraiser and meander off. I've had this open for three days and I've been hitting up every social avenue and connection I can think to hit up. All but one of my funders thus far have been people I've known for a few years. Not a lot of stranger traffic coming in yet.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - Salty Lake - 08-10-2013
(08-10-2013, 10:26 PM)synaesthetic Wrote: Yeah I doubt I'd be that lucky. For one, I'm nowhere near as attractive as she is, and if you think that didn't help her then I've got some oceanfront property on Mars to sell you at a reasonable price. Secondly, the number of friends I have can be counted on one hand.Ugh, and more vulnerable to violence, too. Â I wish the mainstream gay rights movement prioritized transgender issues. Â We have gay marriage in my state, which is all well and good, but getting married doesn't really solve poverty, unemployment, legal discrimination, homelessness etc. experienced disproportionately by transgender people (and queer people in general).
Not really much chance of that ever happening. I've pretty much just resigned myself to being stuck like this forever. When you're poor, you have no power, no agency, no control over your life.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - Ellie - 08-10-2013
So many things to donate to this month, I'll have to wait until next month to contribute anything. I'm trans too (MtF) so I know exactly how you feel. I really hope you can make your goal.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - S'demyx Tia - 08-10-2013
(08-10-2013, 09:54 PM)halceeuhn Wrote: All the support in the world!
*Brofist*
Oooh a fellow bro!!
Best of luck to you OP. An ex of mine was FTM. (With him all the way from pre-op/pre-T to post-op/on T). So I know how difficult this time can be.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - DimmerMeerkat - 08-11-2013
(08-10-2013, 11:03 PM)Lake Desire Wrote:Not to mention the high rate of suicide attempts. Around 41%. I am happy that gay rights are moving forward, but it sucks to sometimes find that cisgendered people for gay rights, including some gay and lesbian people themselves, can be a little hostile towards transgendered people for one reason or another. Gay marriage just kicked in in my state 9 days ago.(08-10-2013, 10:26 PM)synaesthetic Wrote: Yeah I doubt I'd be that lucky. For one, I'm nowhere near as attractive as she is, and if you think that didn't help her then I've got some oceanfront property on Mars to sell you at a reasonable price. Secondly, the number of friends I have can be counted on one hand.Ugh, and more vulnerable to violence, too. Â I wish the mainstream gay rights movement prioritized transgender issues. Â We have gay marriage in my state, which is all well and good, but getting married doesn't really solve poverty, unemployment, legal discrimination, homelessness etc. experienced disproportionately by transgender people (and queer people in general).
Not really much chance of that ever happening. I've pretty much just resigned myself to being stuck like this forever. When you're poor, you have no power, no agency, no control over your life.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - Zyrusticae - 08-11-2013
Mate, I have tremendous, absolute respect for you for going through with this stuff.
While I can't promise sending any funds your way (I live with a family that's constantly toeing the poverty line and only work part time myself), you have my unmitigated support and I wish you all the luck in the world on your endeavor.
Also, I'm incredibly bloody jealous of you right now. I can't even think of transitioning right now due to both my family and monetary situations, plus the process of a MtF transition is somewhat more limited than the FtM transition (no real change to the voice, for example). And, er, there's the part where I'm only biologically transexual and am otherwise ambiguously gendered... Man, this world has a sick sense of humor sometimes, producing someone as dysfunctional as myself. But I digress. This isn't about me, heh.
I'll see if I can't get anyone I know to throw some funds your way. Good luck, man!
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - DimmerMeerkat - 08-11-2013
Many thanks, Zyru. I remember learning that you were trans back in the day in this thread. :3
Sorry to hear about your situation. Hopefully it gets better soon.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - Kyouri - 08-11-2013
Good luck. I don't have money to spare right now but I hope you can manage to raise some. I had an expensive surgery done myself that ended up costing about $14k or so after interest rates for a deformity I had. So not really the same thing but i know how hard it can be to pay off an expensive surgery to feel "normal" finally. I paid it off all by myself but it took a few years and I put the main surgery cost on a CareCredit card, not sure if that would be an option for you. But if you can get enough to at least put down on the surgery, maybe you would able to work out something like that to pay the rest down slowly.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - Salty Lake - 08-11-2013
(08-11-2013, 12:04 AM)DimmerMeerkat Wrote: Not to mention the high rate of suicide attempts. Around 41%. I am happy that gay rights are moving forward, but it sucks to sometimes find that cisgendered people for gay rights, including some gay and lesbian people themselves, can be a little hostile towards transgendered people for one reason or another. Gay marriage just kicked in in my state 9 days ago.Yeah, there's still a lot of work to be done. Â Mainstream gay rights organizations like HRC have even sacrificed trans issues to try and appear more mainstream. Â Organizations have done that with us bi/pan folks too but not to the same extent. Â I actually have gotten more biphobia from lesbians than straight people; think I am not really queer, selling out when dating male-assigned people, etc. Â (For disclosure, I am not really into binary gender for myself but mostly regarded as a ciswoman.)
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - Domri Blackblade - 08-11-2013
(08-11-2013, 12:56 PM)Lake Desire Wrote: Yeah, there's still a lot of work to be done. Â Mainstream gay rights organizations like HRC have even sacrificed trans issues to try and appear more mainstream. Â Organizations have done that with us bi/pan folks too but not to the same extent. Â I actually have gotten more biphobia from lesbians than straight people; think I am not really queer, selling out when dating male-assigned people, etc. Â (For disclosure, I am not really into binary gender for myself but mostly regarded as a ciswoman.)
That's really a shame. One of my two best friends is an FtM. He actually just got a job and is so excited, but yeah even some of his fellow LGBT coworkers are a little jilted by his sexual identity.
And I am a lesbian, but I know exactly what you mean about the misguided views lesbians tend to have on bisexual women. Every time I see: "Well, she said she was bi, but she ended up marrying a man. Guess she really was just straight." I just roll my eyes. And I rebuttal, "So if she married a woman, she'd really be a lesbian?"
Somehow that never seems to piece together.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - Salty Lake - 08-11-2013
(08-11-2013, 01:03 PM)Meia Wrote: That's really a shame. One of my two best friends is an FtM. He actually just got a job and is so excited, but yeah even some of his fellow LGBT coworkers are a little jilted by his sexual identity.
And I am a lesbian, but I know exactly what you mean about the misguided views lesbians tend to have on bisexual women. Every time I see: "Well, she said she was bi, but she ended up marrying a man. Guess she really was just straight." I just roll my eyes. And I rebuttal, "So if she married a woman, she'd really be a lesbian?"
Somehow that never seems to piece together.
Yeah, it's like you become the sexual orientation to match whomever you marry! Â I actually have a bi friend married to a woman and she has to remind folks "no, I'm not a lesbian, I'm bi." Â I'm in a relationship with a bi guy and we have a similar conversation, except we have to say, "nope, not straight, still like all genders!"
I hand out with lesbians a lot (I'm in the Xena: Warrior Princess fandom) and 70% of folks are cool and accepting, but sometimes they'll get on rants about bi girls on their Facebooks and how they never date them because they'll talk about how they miss penises (what? who says this to their lover?) or end up leaving them for a man.
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - LandStander - 08-11-2013
I didn't realize we had such a large transgender community here ^^.
I bookmarked your page and will pass around to some of my like-minded friends. School is starting in about 2 weeks and I had to front all the money for books and classes so I am living off of pocket lint (which sadly the grocery store doesn't seem to consider bartering material), but I should be back on my feet in a month so I can donate then.
Edit: Just wanted to add..Asmodian Santa xD!!! lololol
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - Asyria - 08-11-2013
Best of luck to you!
Unfortunately, I'm way to poor to donate anything.. heck if I was anywhere else than Canada I'd need a fundraiser too for my health. ^^;
RE: Transgender FtM Top Surgery Fundraiser - DimmerMeerkat - 08-11-2013
(08-11-2013, 01:08 PM)Lake Desire Wrote: (I'm in the Xena: Warrior Princess fandom)...You're my new best friend, kay?
I cosplayed as Ares once. It was well before I could ever grow facial hair so I liberally drew on a beard. Anywho, I'm part of the "Xenaversity of Minnesota" and one of the web groups petitioning for a Xena movie. So, ya know. Represent! o/
The Xenaversity of Minnesota's run by a gay man. :3
(08-11-2013, 01:30 PM)LandStander Wrote: I didn't realize we had such a large transgender community here ^^.Sounds good! And glad you like the Asmo-Santa. :3 I did a video a long time ago about Solorius, too. Santa was a no-show because he was busy defending the Asmodian people from the evil Elyos and Balaur, so his present to Asmodae was LIFE.
I bookmarked your page and will pass around to some of my like-minded friends. School is starting in about 2 weeks and I had to front all the money for books and classes so I am living off of pocket lint (which sadly the grocery store doesn't seem to consider bartering material), but I should be back on my feet in a month so I can donate then.
Edit: Just wanted to add..Asmodian Santa xD!!! lololol
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