• Login
  • Register
Hello There, Guest!

Username:

Password:

Remember me

Lost PW Lost Password?

Advanced Search
  • Rules
  • Staff
  • Wiki
  • Free Companies
  • Linkshells
  • Calendar
  • Chat
  • Gallery
  • Donate
home Hydaelyn Role-Players → Community → RP Discussion v
« Previous 1 … 39 40 41 42 43 … 108 Next »
→

Confused and Frustrated


RPC has moved! These pages have been kept for historical purposes

Please be sure to visit https://ffxiv-roleplayers.com/ directly for the new page.

Confused and Frustrated
Threaded Mode | Linear Mode
Pages (4): « Previous 1 2 3 4

SunKittyEmv
SunKittyEm
Find all posts by this user
Junior Member
**

Offline
Posts:23
Joined:Feb 2014
Character:Chell El'lara
Server:Balmung
Reputation: 0
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#46
03-15-2014, 11:32 AM
(This post was last modified: 03-15-2014, 11:33 AM by SunKittyEm.)
for RP FC housing on Balmung, the Laughing Lady has recently hit things up in the Goblet, Ward 3. The housing is being used as an Inn for weary travelers and somewhat as a hub for criminal dealings, on the down-low. The ground floor and "cellerage" are both set up to be used in this fashion, although we're awaiting certain things to determine what to do with our top floor.

There's usually a member of the Lady online, and if you want to know for certain, we've an OOC LS that you can easily be invited to. Most members are willing to hit up some rp at the housing all day. 

As for general advice on how to break things in with people - like eveyrone says (and I too, like Steel Wolf, am fantastically late to the party) - be persistent. It's all about finding the right group. My characters an Ul'dah cat so although I don't do much derking 'round in the Quicksand, I'm usually poppin' around OOC or IC. Just /tell me (Emelie Annel) asking for rp and if I'm not currently busy with something... I'll come 'round and have E say hey. 

^^; I wish you the best of luck!
Quote this message in a reply
ArmachiAv
ArmachiA
Find all posts by this user
Visit this user's website
Eorzean Pop Idol*
******

Offline
Posts:1,687
Joined:Jul 2010
Character:Armi Muramasa
Linkshell:Night Blades
Server:Balmung
Reputation: 329
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#47
03-15-2014, 04:05 PM
We just introduced our house ICly as a small headquarters/office. Our neighbors on the left are not RP-ers but are really nice and invited us to all run CT with them the day we move in and we bonded. The neighbors on the right are <Unity> so we know they're good Tongue

[Image: tumblr_n92fndN0EH1rujdn8o1_500.gif]
~~☆.~ Armi Alliando-Muramasa~.★~~
~~.★~~ Journal~~☆.~~
*Pop Idol status pending.
Quote this message in a reply
Aduu Avagnarv
Aduu Avagnar
Find all posts by this user
Student of the Aetheric
******

Offline
Posts:1,131
Joined:Jul 2013
Character:Aduu Avagnar
Server:Balmung
Reputation: 67
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#48
03-16-2014, 08:42 AM
If my character hadn't gotten himself kidapped then I would be socialising more. that being said, until recently I had sort of left the RP scene, now I am with a more established group, its growing on me again.

If you ever see me wandering about, feel free to stop me and say hi, My face should be a common one in Ul'dah, especially around the Ossuary.

Aduu Avagnar, The Wanderer: Wiki
Quote this message in a reply
Bluev
Blue
Find all posts by this user
Visit this user's website
ERP Hater
*****

Offline
Posts:901
Joined:Apr 2013
Character:Jet'a Vann, Blue
Linkshell:Tales of Hydaelyn
Server:Balmung
Reputation: 131
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#49
03-26-2014, 12:15 AM
I know the feeling. In this period most of my LS friends are inactive (college, work, stuff), and I've been feeling lonely. I spent the past two days in taverns trying to get some interactions with strangers (I was RPing on alts, so entirely new characters), and in two days, maybe a total 8 hours of attempts, I only managed a total of two interactions, both lasting less than five minutes because the others were busy RPing with their FC mates or friends. It really is difficult starting out alone...! You totally have my support.

To be an interesting, intriguing, well-written character, there needs to be something to allow the audience to relate to them. That is what the problem is with who wants their character to be "perfect". Perfect characters will never be strong, and strong characters will never be perfect, because WE (those who read, who watch, who RP) are not perfect.

"What makes a strong character is how they deal with their flaws, their fears, their turmoils, their troubles that get in the way. That's what makes them relatable." -- N.C.
Quote this message in a reply
John Spiegelv
John Spiegel
Find all posts by this user
Just JJ
***

Offline
Posts:207
Joined:Nov 2012
Character:John Spiegel
Linkshell:Crystalline
Server:Balmung
Reputation: 9
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#50
03-26-2014, 08:56 AM
Lurking/eavesdropping is not always rewarding but it is what I've been doing as it fits what my character(s) is/are doing right now, sans the one hiding out in the elements with his fiance.

I have taken to find this coveted (NON-UL'DAH) random rp the past few days with little luck as well. I have found and lurked RPers in a few, although distant, places. There are a few hurdles I have found:

1. Time! RP doesn't pickup till mid afternoon EST on weekdays!
2. Some people just are, infact, cliquey! They don't do well with strangers!
3. I'm not willing to break my character's way just to fit into someone's RP situation. If I want to eat a loaf of bread and eavesdrop, or be a blond-headed, sharp-tongued b%*$@h, that's what I'm going to be! If I am seen a villain or otherwise unruly character, I would react accordingly!
4. I find cookie-cutter tavern RP to sate my appetite only briefly. (don't jump down my throat, please)
5. LSs/FCs come and go, cliques are forever. This is not a bad thing. Consider it a static RP group safety net. Though RP may grow stale if such a group is isolated too long.
6. Some people just don't know how to improvise in their RP rather sticking to their monorail tracks and want things their way all the time. (ok, that was a little harsh, think of puppies after reading this one)

Note I spent the majority of the past few days around La Noscea and some of Gridania, avoiding the "rp mecca" that is Ul'dah. It is my impression that a lot of RP now happens in the FC houses and around Ul'dah or over pearls and such. As a result, I have been left with a thirst for RP that I can't quench.

I'll continue my search another day.

Alex Windfist Wiki -- John Spiegel Wiki

Crystalline
Quote this message in a reply
Zhaviv
Zhavi
Find all posts by this user
Shady Scrag
*****

Offline
Posts:1,747
Joined:Apr 2010
Server:Balmung
Reputation: 302 Timezone:UTC-9
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#51
03-28-2014, 03:08 PM
(This post was last modified: 03-28-2014, 03:16 PM by Zhavi.)
A quick disclaimer -- I have spent way more time doing forum rps and text-based mud (multi-user dungeon) rps than mmo rps. So take that as you will.

One thing I've found to be common no matter what rp community I've joined is this: people are shy. I use the term loosely, in a general sense of not willing to go up to strangers. When you've been in a game for a long time and are comfortable and happy, you're not willing to take risks.

The sad fact is, new players are a risk. You know you, but no one else does when you arrive in a new community. They don't know your writing style, if you get angry easily, if you're apt to godmode, if you're going to disappear after a week, or if what makes rp fun for you will make rp fun for them. Rping with a new person is a leap of faith. Sometimes people don't want that, they want an experience that they've built upon and know will end well. They want some semblance of a safety net. They want the familiar. The other side of the coin is that they don't know that you're weeks out with almost no rp and feeling disheartened about everything. Why would they?

(Neat thing! Check out the Ellsberg Paradox)

The goal here is to get around that. How do you do that? Talking to people oocly. I know that there are plenty of rpers who just want to let things happen organically, but if you want to do that then you're going to have to do it the hard way -- by being extremely patient and keeping at it. However, by sending people tells or pms and detailing out why you messaged them (the character, rp you saw them do, something else) then they start to have an idea of who you are and what you're looking for. Don't just be like "I'm new and need rp, figure something out for me" -- offer up ideas. Even if you don't want to plot, just give a scenario -- "My character is like this, your character is like that, would you be willing to meet up here and let things play out?"

Even if they turn you down, there are more people out there. In the meantime you wind up establishing:

1) Your general demeanor.
2) What rp you're looking for.
3) That you want to rp with this person in particular.
4) That you're looking to collaborate.

Most of the time I think you'll find that people are friendly, approachable, and willing to try new things if you give them a basis to start off of. But first you gotta break the ice. Smile

This is advice I've given to tons of people over the years at my main squeeze -- a rp forum I've been on since 2009. Time and time again I see things play out the same way. Those who dump their character in the 'available characters' thread and do nothing else generally wind up never getting into a thread. Meanwhile, those who are friendly, excited, and talk to other players typically see themselves in a thread within a few days. It's just how it tends to go.

I hope everyone who has expressed frustration in this thread is able to go out and find the rp they're looking for. Meanwhile, send out some pms. Let people know what you find interesting about their characters/rp. I bet you'll be pleasantly surprised by the results. Smile

edit - forgot one thing. Generally, open statements of 'open to rp, please send me a pm if you're interested in ___ ' don't work. I tend to use them just for a sense of familiarity/friendliness (repetition can help so long as you're not spamming), but generally people fall prey to the bystander effect. Unless they've got an idea already and your general statement somehow clicks with it, they're likely to pass it over. Still, they're good to just get yourself out there. Be friendly, be polite, be creative, be proactive.

Zhavi Streetrunner
Cost ya t'keep me quiet.
Master of ic posting once every few months.
Quote this message in a reply
Askierv
Askier
Find all posts by this user
Smuggle Cat
*****

Offline
Posts:901
Joined:Feb 2014
Server:Balmung
Reputation: 172
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#52
02-07-2015, 10:01 AM
(This post was last modified: 02-11-2015, 08:52 AM by Askier.)
Hark, do my ears deceive me? Is that not the call of someone in need of an rp plot? Is this a summoning of a new story arc to draw the masses together once more in standard Askier fashion?! 

Well no because I don't have time to run an event like that cause of rl. Seriously I'm averaging four hours of sleep here.

However I'd like to toss my two cents in. I know how you feel. Back when I firsted started rping in this game, and this is the first mmo I've ever rped in, I was having trouble finding consistent rp or even the sort of rp I wanted. Personally I hate tavern rp. Bores me to tears. And I wasn't really involved in any plots and wanted the dynamic sort of situations I had assumed occurred. And It was sort of hard for me to get involved in other peoples plots. So, I dug around, got some advice on world lore, and made my own event using this website as a sort of gathering place to announce dates and get a roster and set up times and I managed to meet a bunch of really awesome people I never would have met otherwise.

Now my event, well events now, ended up being rather large but there is no need to have a big one. Even a simple one night event can get people to come out for it and the perks with an event is that you gather people together who are all interested in the rp you set up prior and are there to rp. This puts fellow rpers in the same place and it is very likely your will get at least a couple people to want to rp with again and thus you sort of build that history of your characters together.

So my advice in a nutshell is if you want to meet people and engage in a more dynamic form of to, set up a simple event and see who shows up. Plenty of people will normally if you give them enough advance notice.
Quote this message in a reply
Veradv
Verad
Find all posts by this user
Dubious Duskwight
*****

Offline
Posts:926
Joined:Feb 2014
Character:Verad Bellveil
Linkshell:Momodi LS, Roll Eorzea
Server:Balmung
Reputation: 382
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#53
02-08-2015, 03:33 PM
Is this still ongoing?

Verad Bellveil's Profile | The Case of the Ransacked Rug | Verad's Fate Sheet

Current Fate-14 Storyline: Merchant, Marine
Quote this message in a reply
Edvynv
Edvyn
Find all posts by this user
â›§to mega therionâ›§
****

Offline
Posts:632
Joined:Dec 2014
Character:Edda Vincents
Linkshell:Excellent Roleplay
Server:Balmung
Reputation: 238 Timezone:UTC+10
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#54
02-08-2015, 04:34 PM
if it's not ongoing you can just pretend it is
consider this an exercise in roleplaying

edda vincents: magical goth chick
[Image: giphy.gif]
shit im involved in:
excellent roleplay: neo + ebonguard

there's an unmoderated forum. wanna access it? here's how
Quote this message in a reply
Melodiav
Melodia
Find all posts by this user
Posting Freak
*****

Offline
Posts:1,530
Joined:Mar 2014
Character:Melodia D'janz
Reputation: 160
RE: Confused and Frustrated |
#55
02-11-2015, 08:30 AM
(02-08-2015, 03:33 PM)Verad Wrote: Is this still ongoing?
LOL This made me laugh because I first thought that when I saw the thread had been replied to. But....I do appreciate Askier's advice as well as anyone else. It was two cents worth reading. Smile
Quote this message in a reply

« Next Oldest | Next Newest »
Pages (4): « Previous 1 2 3 4

  • View a Printable Version
  • Send this Thread to a Friend
  • Subscribe to this thread


Users browsing this thread: 1 Guest(s)
Index | Return to Top | Lite (Archive) Mode | RSS Syndication | Current time: 05-09-2025, 02:27 AM


Final Fantasy XIV images/content © Square-Enix, forum content © RPC.
The RPC is not affiliated with Square-Enix or any of its subsidiaries.
Powered By MyBB, © 2002-2025 MyBB Group.
Designed by Adrian/Reksio, modified by Kylin@RPC