Hello all, I've wanted to make this thread for a while, as it is both personally cathartic, and I think it will help others.
So often in this game (and in life) I see people stay away from things they desperately want, because they are afraid of failing in the attempt. May it be RP, PVE, Social aspects or even real life issues, people (including myself) let the fear of failure keep them away from their goals. Eventually people even give up on them.
I want to let you know that you are allowed to fail, and when you do fail, the consequences won't be as bad as you think. You might even find yourself better off than having done nothing at all. In the spirit of that, this thread is for our failures, and the discussion of the fear of failing.
Hopefully the examples here will show others that they're not alone, and that everyone has their failures. Do not let the fear of them keep you from what you want.
Here are a few from me to start off:
I made an FC, a long time ago. It was an RP FC with my friends in real life. Countless days of work were poured into it. Plans were made, a house was acquired, friends joined. However largely due to my failures, the thing fell apart, something I was angry and bitter about for a long time. However despite my failure, I learned a great deal from the failure, and try to use that as I go forward in this game.
PVE - I think everyone can relate to this, unless you mainly clear content with a very solid static. PUG groups can tend to expect perfection (from others, not from themselves), and can kick you or insult you if you fail. However everyone has to learn at some point, yet it can be very intimidating going into a group of strangers, not knowing that you can competently do the fight. So people just don't do them. I have failed at content more times than I can count, I've been insulted and kicked. I've joined groups where people have seen my name, and kicked me because of past performance they've seen. Yet... despite all that, I still manage to find groups, and I still manage to find content. Balmung is a huge server, and your failures will not be as widespread as you think. There is always a chance to try again with another group.
And that group, won't remember you as the person who failed, but the person who had some experience, and helped them clear. And they'll be the group that will want you back, and be happy to see you.
Anyway, sorry for the rambling, if anyone else can relate, or has stories of their own failures to get off their chest, please, feel free.
So often in this game (and in life) I see people stay away from things they desperately want, because they are afraid of failing in the attempt. May it be RP, PVE, Social aspects or even real life issues, people (including myself) let the fear of failure keep them away from their goals. Eventually people even give up on them.
I want to let you know that you are allowed to fail, and when you do fail, the consequences won't be as bad as you think. You might even find yourself better off than having done nothing at all. In the spirit of that, this thread is for our failures, and the discussion of the fear of failing.
Hopefully the examples here will show others that they're not alone, and that everyone has their failures. Do not let the fear of them keep you from what you want.
Here are a few from me to start off:
I made an FC, a long time ago. It was an RP FC with my friends in real life. Countless days of work were poured into it. Plans were made, a house was acquired, friends joined. However largely due to my failures, the thing fell apart, something I was angry and bitter about for a long time. However despite my failure, I learned a great deal from the failure, and try to use that as I go forward in this game.
PVE - I think everyone can relate to this, unless you mainly clear content with a very solid static. PUG groups can tend to expect perfection (from others, not from themselves), and can kick you or insult you if you fail. However everyone has to learn at some point, yet it can be very intimidating going into a group of strangers, not knowing that you can competently do the fight. So people just don't do them. I have failed at content more times than I can count, I've been insulted and kicked. I've joined groups where people have seen my name, and kicked me because of past performance they've seen. Yet... despite all that, I still manage to find groups, and I still manage to find content. Balmung is a huge server, and your failures will not be as widespread as you think. There is always a chance to try again with another group.
And that group, won't remember you as the person who failed, but the person who had some experience, and helped them clear. And they'll be the group that will want you back, and be happy to see you.
Anyway, sorry for the rambling, if anyone else can relate, or has stories of their own failures to get off their chest, please, feel free.