(12-07-2014, 03:24 PM)Blue Wrote:(12-07-2014, 09:07 AM)Ritual Wrote: I also want to point out introverts aren't necessarily people that don't talk, I'm introverted and if you get me hooked on a subject I can talk for hours, it's just we don't like small talk too much, the "formalities". As an ISTP, I'm very non-communicative, unless you require my knowledge, I just HAVE to tell you something or again we get on an interesting subject, I speak more through actions than words and I choose my words very carefully. Introversion and Extroversion have nothing to do with if you're social or not, the man who came up with them himself said this, Carl C. Jung, they're just how your first function is orientated.
That line really stroke a chord to me because it's exactly how I feel.
However, as much as I want to thank everyone for the kind advice, I feel I was a little misunderstood. I am aware that people will not RP with me if I end conversations or don't talk back in general, but that is certainly not my case. I always try to find ways to open topics with strangers and involve them in my own plots (Aya should remember this in particular from the one RP we had together during one of my rare visits at the Quicksand). What I'd like to know is how to avoid occurrences such as the cases I have displayed, in which people either won't even give me a chance upon learning that I am introvert (1) or discovering that I am not an e-dater RPer (2).
I have pretty much come to the conclusion that if people don't get back to me to RP it's just something I have to accept. Not every fish will bait and my lure is very small. But when people walk off from me for purely OOC reasons, I do not know.. is that something I must come to accept as common behavior as well? I am introvert in real life too but this kind of stuff has never happened to me, because again, in-game it seems to be much easier to walk off from someone. Or this is how I feel.
There's only a few options, the introversion problem is something that'll last, people have an idea of what an introvert is and if they don't want to RP with that kind of person then it's just something you'll have to get used too. One option is not telling people you or you're characters are introverts, let them pick it up in subtle ques, things you say to hint at it will add a layer of mystery in a way which can be compelling for some people.
The problem about not being a romance RPer is that, it's just a different style of RP to your own, nothing to be done about it tbh, if they leave they leave because they want a different RP experiance to you, that is just something that can't and won't change.
My friends are all introverts and I've gone months before seeing them again, in-game is different ofc, I have had issues with people not liking that I barely speak or see them and honestly, it's who I am it's who you are, it's not a bad thing to be an introvert. I can understand the other persons perspective but they must understand mine too, if people don't like you for who you are even after you explain your behaviour then you guys just aren't compatible.
Without gripping the sword, I cannot protect you. While gripping the sword, I cannot embrace you.
