(12-06-2014, 06:13 PM)Dasair Wrote: I have a rather introverted character myself, and while he has reasons to be social in his 'purpose' for being about in the first place (he'll awkwardly approach people who catch his interest, or seem to have interest in him), I've still gotten some.. off-reactions from people too, all OOCly. Â My character explicitly does not care for loud places, crowds, nor big cities (as per most Duskwights, I'd imagine), and I often tell people about this before I start RPing with them. Â Not only is it considered a 'general lore thing', but it's also a notable part of my character's personality. Â Because of this, and my own preferences in RP, he rarely hangs around in bars (which is where a lot of RP happens, it seems). Â And even if I make it clear that he wouldn't stick around in such a place long if he had a choice, I've still gotten.. weird OOC reactions to this, about how I should 'change my character to be more suitable for RP', even though bar and city RP is definitely not the end-all-be-all of interaction, nevermind all that is possible for RP in this game. ÂBasically this.
That aside though, I have had some pretty nice RPs outside the city walls (or even in them, on rare occasion) with different people, so there's that.
But I know what you mean, when you say some people have some strange thing against characters that don't necessarily want to hang out in the most social of places, or are on the more introverted side.
All that said, I'd be quite willing to play with one of yours to see if our characters might get along if you're having a hard time finding anyone to play with. Â :> Â My nerd does much better with one-on-one conversations than group gatherings anyhow, and I know how it can be difficult to find people to RP with at times, especially given a tendency to shy away from crowded places.
Chiane is a Dusky. She detests loud places and only, ONLY goes there to handle business. Extended time there will make her rub her ears and become very blunt and irritable (even to the point of suddenly excusing herself to leave). She also gets irritable with 'small talk.'
She is very private and reserved/wary of basically any that are not Duskwight as well- but that does not mean she will refuse to speak or make life uncomfortable for folks. It just means she prefers the 'watch and wait' vs the 'jump right in and chatter on.' She does not trust those not of 'Blood'.... UNTIL she gets to know them better. Her fiance was a Hyur. Nuff said.
Miqo'te, in general, make her VERY wary, as nearly every Miqo that she's met has either tried to hug her, get in her personal space, or seduce her. IC-ly... it is a funny thing b/c she is blunt about it ("Since you have not tried to either hug or seduce me, we should get along fine.")
Yes, her closest friends are Duskwight. Jaques (her adopted brother) and Yssen. She is carries a Linkpearl to the Duskwight Sanctuary to help other Duskies get 'support' (IC) if needed.
Yes, she has risked her life to save a Miqo (who DOES like to hug on her, which annoys her, but she is also a friend), yes she goes out and fights/adventures, etc. She is reckless, self-less, and loyal to those she considers friends or family.
Yes, I prefer 'active' RP- in the field, in a home, in intimate settings (not necessarily romantic, just not a mass of bodies where I have to chase down a scrolling chat page), in small groups, and do not jump right into the romance thing. I'm here to RP... there is SO MUCH MORE to RP than romance/ERP/whatever. Yes, it can give it spice, but it is not the End All, Be All and Only Reason To RP.
She is also a natural leader and if things need to be said, or done, she will speak up (I will not confirm that there is some DW arrogance in play... *coughs*).
I illustrate all that to say: Yes. She is an Introvert.
But on her terms. She is far from a 'shrinking flower' that folks would have issues RPing with or fine 'boring' I think (I hope?). Still... I am not sought out to RP. I have my small group, but am open to expanding my RP circle. It just has to 'make sense' for my character. I can't torque her to be something she is not. I have tried that in the past, to force a character to be something they are not... and it ended miserably for me. As another poster said, I am who I am, she is who she is and though there could be growth her and there (growth is good... Dynamic characters are good), it is perfectly OK to be Introverted (just not a complete antisocial, if you hope to get RP).
Armi's suggestion is a very good one.
Ritual also has great insights. (I'm a warring INFJ/INFP myself.)
NOW!
As far as the situations you mentioned, Blue... I've not had #1 happen, but I have had #2. "Hi.. you're the hottest looking Duskwight I've seen. Wanna hook up?"
I don't know how to avoid this, or what advice to give. It is oddly complimentary (I'm glad someone likes how I made Chi) and simultaneously annoying (do you think that all RPers do is ERP all day? What about a story?). The best I can suggest is what you did: just politely say 'no' and move on. If they can't take it, or keep pushing, then you didn't need to be hanging out with them anyway. (the RP/interaction would be awful).
Regarding #1 though?
I put in my search "Duskwight RPer"... a my subtle way of saying her interactions would be based on her being a Dusky, so if you get ticked she is lore based and isn't a happy-unicorn-dancing-bunnies chatterbox character... well, that's on you.
You could do similar- "Introverted character, but open to RP. PST." Or something.
Sorry so long... just wanted to give examples, since some posters seemed to think all introverts/shy characters were hermit recluses that speak in monosyllables and interaction is like pulling teeth. *grins* (I have interacted with such a person IRL and ... omg... I totally understand. I -hated- interacting with her... but thankfully most introverts are NOT like that...)
If you want to meet up sometime *grins* I'm sure we could find a way to meet w/o being contrived too much.
