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Don't get me wrong, I understand that most of the time women are better at writing female characters and men are better at writing male characters. There are toooons of exceptions to that rule, though, or the difference is often to slight it doesn't really matter. It's kinda the same as saying "preferably not a bad RPer." If quality of RP is what he's concerned about, why not just say that instead? Probably because it's kinda off-putting to read even if you fully understand where someone is coming from.
In my personal experience, I've had a ton of problems with lesbian catgirls played by RL men in their 30's. That seems like a weirdly small and niche group, I know, but it's surprising how many characters fall into that category, and every one I've met has been interested in three things: stirring up buttloads of drama OOC like they're living their secret fantasy of being a high school girl, seeking out tons of ERP, and spending what time isn't dedicated on the first two things godmodding, being a Mary Sue, and trying to make their character be the ultimate badass. I've ran into this type in XIV so often it isn't even funny. But if I put "Looking for RP friends, preferably not a lesbian catgirl played by a 30-year-old man," once people realized it was actually serious and not a joke, they'd probably find it preemptively judgmental and offensively discriminatory... because it is.
Bad RPers are bad RPers. There are much worse offenses than someone who can't write well for the gender of the character they're playing. I'd much sooner tack up "No godmodders" or "No Mary Sues" or "No OOC crazies who will cause buttloads of drama." So if it's for the sake of preserving RP quality, I don't understand why someone's RL gender is the most serious potential problem.
And I'm sorry if calling it "weird" seems antagonistic, but that's just how it is. I'm not sure what words would be better. Sketchy? Strange? Shady? Suspicious? Sexist? All have pretty negative connotations that may upset someone, which makes sense, given that it's a negative feeling. It's difficult to find positive words for negative things.
In my personal experience, I've had a ton of problems with lesbian catgirls played by RL men in their 30's. That seems like a weirdly small and niche group, I know, but it's surprising how many characters fall into that category, and every one I've met has been interested in three things: stirring up buttloads of drama OOC like they're living their secret fantasy of being a high school girl, seeking out tons of ERP, and spending what time isn't dedicated on the first two things godmodding, being a Mary Sue, and trying to make their character be the ultimate badass. I've ran into this type in XIV so often it isn't even funny. But if I put "Looking for RP friends, preferably not a lesbian catgirl played by a 30-year-old man," once people realized it was actually serious and not a joke, they'd probably find it preemptively judgmental and offensively discriminatory... because it is.
Bad RPers are bad RPers. There are much worse offenses than someone who can't write well for the gender of the character they're playing. I'd much sooner tack up "No godmodders" or "No Mary Sues" or "No OOC crazies who will cause buttloads of drama." So if it's for the sake of preserving RP quality, I don't understand why someone's RL gender is the most serious potential problem.
And I'm sorry if calling it "weird" seems antagonistic, but that's just how it is. I'm not sure what words would be better. Sketchy? Strange? Shady? Suspicious? Sexist? All have pretty negative connotations that may upset someone, which makes sense, given that it's a negative feeling. It's difficult to find positive words for negative things.
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