Back when I played WoW, the thing I hated most were the guilds that were dead-set on not taking anyone who might possibly be new to an instance. It was the stupid, circular logic of "If you want to run this instance, you have to have run this instance." Even with watching videos and reading strats, you couldn't come unless you had successfully cleared the content you wanted to go on - or had a friend high enough in the hierarchy to get you snuck in.
This was the time before LFR, too. So basically it was near impossible for a fresh person to try to get in on a raiding guild. Fortunately, FFXIV seems a lot better on that regard - with "statics" that seem a lot more open to bring along people who are willing to listen and learn. I still don't want to really rejoin the raiding scene, but it's a nice thing to see.
Other than that? A lack of communication between members. My sister got kicked out of a FC because apparently she upset someone and they just let it fester and complained about it behind her back instead of being a mature adult and talking it out with her. When I asked them about it (I had been invited to the FC as well, since I was still new and eager to bum off FC perks), they said they totally talked to her about it beforehand - something she couldn't recall at all.
The same sort of nonsense happened in my WoW guild. Someone would upset someone else and they'd just snark and talk behind their back until they got caught and then everything blew up and either one or both sides would leave the guild. It's stupid, childish nonsense. If there's an issue, please bring it up and see if it can't be rectified before hitting critical mass.
Unfortunately, that's not something you can really notice off the bat. It's just something you start to see creeping in. Someone being talked about after they've logged, sudden hostilities that seem to come from nowhere. I think that's why I'm so quick to try to correct any issues I may cause in my FCs... I'm really happy in the ones I'm in and my little panic-addled mind oft sees a slip-up cascading into something far worse.
And it's the fact that I still do that which keeps me from trying to get back into raiding, I think.
This was the time before LFR, too. So basically it was near impossible for a fresh person to try to get in on a raiding guild. Fortunately, FFXIV seems a lot better on that regard - with "statics" that seem a lot more open to bring along people who are willing to listen and learn. I still don't want to really rejoin the raiding scene, but it's a nice thing to see.
Other than that? A lack of communication between members. My sister got kicked out of a FC because apparently she upset someone and they just let it fester and complained about it behind her back instead of being a mature adult and talking it out with her. When I asked them about it (I had been invited to the FC as well, since I was still new and eager to bum off FC perks), they said they totally talked to her about it beforehand - something she couldn't recall at all.
The same sort of nonsense happened in my WoW guild. Someone would upset someone else and they'd just snark and talk behind their back until they got caught and then everything blew up and either one or both sides would leave the guild. It's stupid, childish nonsense. If there's an issue, please bring it up and see if it can't be rectified before hitting critical mass.
Unfortunately, that's not something you can really notice off the bat. It's just something you start to see creeping in. Someone being talked about after they've logged, sudden hostilities that seem to come from nowhere. I think that's why I'm so quick to try to correct any issues I may cause in my FCs... I'm really happy in the ones I'm in and my little panic-addled mind oft sees a slip-up cascading into something far worse.
And it's the fact that I still do that which keeps me from trying to get back into raiding, I think.
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