I know people in my FC, various linkshells, and on Tumblr who avoid the RPC altogether for the increasing hostility here. Truthfully, it's even caused me to consider distancing myself from the RPC, as well.
In my experience, the main cause I've seen driving the negativity is the perception that if someone disagrees with you, they are attacking you personally, or that if someone voices an opinion different from your own--even if they do not address you or your opinion--they're somehow saying your opinion is wrong and you should feel dumb for having it.
Can we please stop this, RPC? People can disagree. People can think different things. A difference of opinion does not mean that someone doesn't respect you, or that you can't respect them, or that you can't be friends, or that you can't role-play together. "I don't agree with your opinion" is not a personal attack. It's pretty dumb to watch people split into cliques and hurl insults at each other based on something as petty, simple, and silly as a debate about the game's lore of all things.
"You're either for me or against me!" thinking is very bad. In every argument, there are not only two very extreme sides and you have to totally love and be 100% on board with one and completely HATE and want to DESTROY the the other! There are more than two sides. There are shades of grey. You can even be all for one side without condemning the other. Many preferences are not mutually exclusive. Liking cats doesn't have to mean you hate dogs, or hate people who like dogs. The end.
Other important things to remember: Someone voicing their opinion does not mean they expect you to share it, nor does it mean they expect you to follow it in your own role-play. Let's please stop mistaking "I don't like when other role-players _____" as "I HATE WHEN OTHER ROLE-PLAYERS _____ SO THEY SHOULD NEVER DO IT AND I'LL PERSONALLY MAKE SURE THEY NEVER DO!"
In my experience, the main cause I've seen driving the negativity is the perception that if someone disagrees with you, they are attacking you personally, or that if someone voices an opinion different from your own--even if they do not address you or your opinion--they're somehow saying your opinion is wrong and you should feel dumb for having it.
Can we please stop this, RPC? People can disagree. People can think different things. A difference of opinion does not mean that someone doesn't respect you, or that you can't respect them, or that you can't be friends, or that you can't role-play together. "I don't agree with your opinion" is not a personal attack. It's pretty dumb to watch people split into cliques and hurl insults at each other based on something as petty, simple, and silly as a debate about the game's lore of all things.
"You're either for me or against me!" thinking is very bad. In every argument, there are not only two very extreme sides and you have to totally love and be 100% on board with one and completely HATE and want to DESTROY the the other! There are more than two sides. There are shades of grey. You can even be all for one side without condemning the other. Many preferences are not mutually exclusive. Liking cats doesn't have to mean you hate dogs, or hate people who like dogs. The end.
Other important things to remember: Someone voicing their opinion does not mean they expect you to share it, nor does it mean they expect you to follow it in your own role-play. Let's please stop mistaking "I don't like when other role-players _____" as "I HATE WHEN OTHER ROLE-PLAYERS _____ SO THEY SHOULD NEVER DO IT AND I'LL PERSONALLY MAKE SURE THEY NEVER DO!"
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