Yes, yes. I don't believe I was clear enough and apologize deeply if I've been misconstrued. I'm not saying that there aren't people who try and try and try and don't find what they're looking for. That's practically life itself in a nutshell. Everyone, and I do mean everyone, should at least get the cursory help they need to get started and we as a community have some semblance of a duty to provide it.
I'm merely pointing out the toxicity that can come from the bellyaching that can, and all too often does come from it. Like it or not, nobody cares for a whiner. Especially when when assistance is there, but it might take a little time. And sadly, to those of you who do feel left out, I can only offer bread and salt—tough it out humbly. And continue toughing it out humbly. All it takes is for one person to be a Negative Nancy to start the accusations of "toxic environment" this or "ignores newcomers" that which really does end up self-creating the said toxic environment.
I'm merely pointing out the toxicity that can come from the bellyaching that can, and all too often does come from it. Like it or not, nobody cares for a whiner. Especially when when assistance is there, but it might take a little time. And sadly, to those of you who do feel left out, I can only offer bread and salt—tough it out humbly. And continue toughing it out humbly. All it takes is for one person to be a Negative Nancy to start the accusations of "toxic environment" this or "ignores newcomers" that which really does end up self-creating the said toxic environment.
