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I agree with this OP.
On my good days I am fearless, I am up for anything and nothing gets me down. But the way of things is one small pin prick of disappointment can bring all your fears back. At that point it helps to stop the panic and just remind yourself that the prick is not that big and "choose" how you want to respond if at all.Â
On a bad day, I'll be under my covers waiting for the day to go away. A life of negative feedback, as I struggled with words, conditioned me to avoid and dislike any feedback. I am sure many are in a similar position.
That is why failing with friends is the best way. I love PvE but really I love to wipe with friends as we all learn. The loot and progress is secondary to that for me.
Another trap is the comfort of solo dailies and crafting and gathering. I know I want to RP, I know I love RP, and yet I often find myself doing just one more craft, or hunt, or leve.
We know that being with those who feed you and build you up is the way forwards, but the memories of rejection and failure haunt us. We see the negatives and ignore the positives.
So the next time you fail, just put the negatives to one side and consider the positives. They are there.
On my good days I am fearless, I am up for anything and nothing gets me down. But the way of things is one small pin prick of disappointment can bring all your fears back. At that point it helps to stop the panic and just remind yourself that the prick is not that big and "choose" how you want to respond if at all.Â
On a bad day, I'll be under my covers waiting for the day to go away. A life of negative feedback, as I struggled with words, conditioned me to avoid and dislike any feedback. I am sure many are in a similar position.
That is why failing with friends is the best way. I love PvE but really I love to wipe with friends as we all learn. The loot and progress is secondary to that for me.
Another trap is the comfort of solo dailies and crafting and gathering. I know I want to RP, I know I love RP, and yet I often find myself doing just one more craft, or hunt, or leve.
We know that being with those who feed you and build you up is the way forwards, but the memories of rejection and failure haunt us. We see the negatives and ignore the positives.
So the next time you fail, just put the negatives to one side and consider the positives. They are there.
Char:Â [Nebula Stardancer] Â FC: [East Eerie Trading Co]
Link Shells: [Hugs & Cakes] Â [Witches' Wyrd Web]