(01-30-2014, 02:04 PM)Flickering Ember Wrote: If there were rules that were only established between you and your partner and no one else then my suggestion would be to simply RP this sort of thing out in party. When you roleplay in Say, other roleplayers get a sense that this is an open world and that their player can potentially join in.Â
But if you are open about other players joining in, I would probably shoot a whisper the moment the roleplayer has their character lay approach and lay down the story's rules. Explain that it is semi-open, but open only under these conditions.
I definitely don't think the other RPer's actions were unreasonable but since it went in a direction you didn't want don't feel bad about speaking up and being earnest about your feelings. The other player might get the wrong impression and think that by allowing this stuff to happen that you are OK with it.
It can be easy to get confused or leave with hurt feelings if we don't know the other RPer(s)' intentions sometimes. And if the other RPer isn't communicating about something that you find awkward or that you're uncomfortable with be the first to bring it up. You'll probably be glad you did!
If Natalie's character and her RP partner were ICly in an open place where others can see/overhear what is going on, then absolutely it should stay in /say. The problem wasn't that the other RPer joined in, it was, it sounds like, a case of god-moding. To the extent the they inserted themselves into the RP and proceeded to railroad it out of the control of Natalia & partner, without first seeking consent for doing so. To do something like maim/imprison two characters is a big deal, especially since it has many long-term consequences to the players and their respective characters. As such it needs a large OOC discussion, or truly co-operative RP in which Natalia & partner had a chance to get out of it if they so wished. It sounds like they played along with it as long as they could until they stonewalled completely. At which point she tried OOCly discussed with the person a potential out, so that her character wasn't locked up and unavailable and could go tend her partner who was dying, but instead was shut down.
Admittedly I was not there and haven't read RP transcripts or anything of the incident. But from where I am at, Natalia was very much in the right here and did her best with what she was given.
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Walk-up RPers shouldn't need to know to know what any background of the RP their stepping into, outside of what they are seeing/hearing in the present and any rumours they've heard/memories of previous encounters they may have had. That being said, OOCly, it is absolutely the responsibility of that RPer to broach any potential no-no zones with the RPers that they have started RPing with/want to RP with should they know of any serious reprecussive actions that their characters are about to take. Universally, these actions are things such as serious injury, imprisonment, sexual assault, death.
Implicit agreement through RP can happen as well, if there is already established trust between the RPers and their character is given opportunities to react/mitigate/get out of whatever it is as their player deems appropriate.
I know I've found myself in these sort of things many times, though admittedly mostly within the circle of RPer friends that I know well and trust. In the future I'd suggest maybe take more proactive action to ascertain the ideas/plans of any walk-up RPers if things seem like they are spiraling out of your comfort zone, to make sure that everyone is operating on the same plane
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