Sadly, I haven't been online much the past few days as my laptop's power supply broke (yippee), or I would have responded sooner. However, fortunately Magellan has already said everything that has come to my mind, and likely better than I would have! Though it may be irrelevant now, I don't mind listening to any questions or concerns no matter how frequent, and any FC leader who would not say the same is not someone who you want as your leader.
Finding a satisfying RP isn't as simple as walking up to someone and greeting them in character. It's essentially the same as walking up to a stranger in real life and initiating conversation with the hopes of making a friend! They may brush you off and ignore you. They may talk to you for a while and then you very well might never see them again. They may give it a shot and either--or both--of you may decide you don't want to be friends. (Maybe you don't have much in common, maybe you think they're a jerk, maybe they think you're a jerk--who knows!) Or you both may really wish you could be friends, but you're both busy and never free at the same time. You may get lucky and make a friend by approaching some stranger on the street, but realistically, chances are you won't.
It's the same in RP. Some people are online at different times, some people are only in-character in certain times/places, some people want to RP certain themes and plots, some people prefer their partner to have a certain writing style, and some people have personalities that don't quite mesh OOC and get in the way of RP. Add in the fact that this is an MMO and players are coming and going from the game, constantly joining and leaving, and the odds of finding a fulfilling RP aren't spectacular.Â
The key is to be persistent and just keep trying! Utilize all your resources. The RPC, RP FC's, RP LS's, the official forums, the Balmung Facebook page, the Balmung RPers Facebook page. Visit RP events, lurk common RP locations, and don't be shy to approach other role-players! It's also good to remember that unless you join a brand new group, everyone was new at some point. Those people chatting away likely didn't even know each other a month ago, but since then they've forged ties with others and gotten comfortable. I think a lot of people forget that getting to know others takes effort on their own part and it's not the responsibility of everyone else to reach out. Cliche as it is, "You have to be a friend to have a friend."
You'll always be a little lost IC, too. There are people who know more lore than you and then there are even people who make up their own lore. Every character has secrets and backstories. Part of the fun of RP is trying to figure out what the heck is going around you in everyone else's RP. It can be a little overwhelming at first, but just remember that no one expects you to know everything--IC or OOC--when you are just starting out.
Unfortunate as it is, feeling overwhelmed at first is normal. Being ignored is normal. You just gotta keep your head up and keep trying. Â The type of people who toss you aside aren't the kind of people you want to befriend, anyway! So keep sorting through unpleasant people until you find the worthwhile ones! Also, thank you for the kind words, Evie and Brynn! I'm glad you've had good experiences with HoD!
The closest we have is this thread, though it hasn't seen much action. I know there are a lot of houses in the Mist, Ward 3, that are RP friendly. Sadly, though, some of our newer neighbors aren't quite as pleasant, but are easily ignored!
Finding a satisfying RP isn't as simple as walking up to someone and greeting them in character. It's essentially the same as walking up to a stranger in real life and initiating conversation with the hopes of making a friend! They may brush you off and ignore you. They may talk to you for a while and then you very well might never see them again. They may give it a shot and either--or both--of you may decide you don't want to be friends. (Maybe you don't have much in common, maybe you think they're a jerk, maybe they think you're a jerk--who knows!) Or you both may really wish you could be friends, but you're both busy and never free at the same time. You may get lucky and make a friend by approaching some stranger on the street, but realistically, chances are you won't.
It's the same in RP. Some people are online at different times, some people are only in-character in certain times/places, some people want to RP certain themes and plots, some people prefer their partner to have a certain writing style, and some people have personalities that don't quite mesh OOC and get in the way of RP. Add in the fact that this is an MMO and players are coming and going from the game, constantly joining and leaving, and the odds of finding a fulfilling RP aren't spectacular.Â
The key is to be persistent and just keep trying! Utilize all your resources. The RPC, RP FC's, RP LS's, the official forums, the Balmung Facebook page, the Balmung RPers Facebook page. Visit RP events, lurk common RP locations, and don't be shy to approach other role-players! It's also good to remember that unless you join a brand new group, everyone was new at some point. Those people chatting away likely didn't even know each other a month ago, but since then they've forged ties with others and gotten comfortable. I think a lot of people forget that getting to know others takes effort on their own part and it's not the responsibility of everyone else to reach out. Cliche as it is, "You have to be a friend to have a friend."
You'll always be a little lost IC, too. There are people who know more lore than you and then there are even people who make up their own lore. Every character has secrets and backstories. Part of the fun of RP is trying to figure out what the heck is going around you in everyone else's RP. It can be a little overwhelming at first, but just remember that no one expects you to know everything--IC or OOC--when you are just starting out.
Unfortunate as it is, feeling overwhelmed at first is normal. Being ignored is normal. You just gotta keep your head up and keep trying. Â The type of people who toss you aside aren't the kind of people you want to befriend, anyway! So keep sorting through unpleasant people until you find the worthwhile ones! Also, thank you for the kind words, Evie and Brynn! I'm glad you've had good experiences with HoD!
(03-13-2014, 08:41 PM)Salty Lake Wrote: What happened to the RP in the other cities? Â I haven't been RPing much for the past few months because I hit endgame and focused on that for a while, and some of my RP partners are on breaks from the game. Â I've been trying to get back into it for a few weeks and only find RP at the Quicksand, which isn't somewhere my character would go to drink because she lives in Limsa. Â
Did the RP move to the FC houses? Â Is there a thread listening FC houses open to the public for RP?
The closest we have is this thread, though it hasn't seen much action. I know there are a lot of houses in the Mist, Ward 3, that are RP friendly. Sadly, though, some of our newer neighbors aren't quite as pleasant, but are easily ignored!