(01-30-2015, 01:29 PM)Zhavi Wrote: I once had a character who was from a culture with very strict gender roles.  Due to a choice she'd made, she'd become something of an outcast, and was stripped of her gender (I had a word for it, in a cultural sense it pretty much just meant that making babies with her was a huge no no), so she left to go wandering.  But she kept those ideas, and had very rigid thoughts about what women should do (namely staying home and defending home and children and raising the children), and what men should do, and when sex should happen and when it shouldn't.

Finding people who wanted to rp with her was a very difficult task.  She was short, ugly, stubborn, and prideful (any conversation with her would include the word 'honor' more than once), and it was interesting how some people who tended to stick to beautiful, elegant, sexy characters and interactions would not only avoid her, but me, as well, on an ooc level.

(02-02-2015, 06:58 AM)hauntmedoitagain Wrote:

(01-30-2015, 01:29 PM)Zhavi Wrote: I once had a character who was from a culture with very strict gender roles.  Due to a choice she'd made, she'd become something of an outcast, and was stripped of her gender (I had a word for it, in a cultural sense it pretty much just meant that making babies with her was a huge no no), so she left to go wandering.  But she kept those ideas, and had very rigid thoughts about what women should do (namely staying home and defending home and children and raising the children), and what men should do, and when sex should happen and when it shouldn't.

Finding people who wanted to rp with her was a very difficult task.  She was short, ugly, stubborn, and prideful (any conversation with her would include the word 'honor' more than once), and it was interesting how some people who tended to stick to beautiful, elegant, sexy characters and interactions would not only avoid her, but me, as well, on an ooc level.

While there may have been a few that rejected this character for their outward appearance, I'm actually going to say that it was more likely that a character such as this simply isn't pleasant to be around in the slightest. A lot of roleplayers are a. female and/or b. fall somewhere in the LGBT spectrum and thus get enough of this regressive crap in real life to not want it in their game. Not saying everything has to always be sunshine and rainbows, but some things hit too close for home at times.

(02-02-2015, 12:20 PM)Zhavi Wrote: The way that community is, there is a certain pressure to have a beautiful, strong character.  There is a subtext that your character needs to be both powerful and attractive, and conventionally strong in that 'beautiful control' sort of way, where problems that arise are due to romantic drama and fights over territory.

(01-30-2015, 03:50 PM)Fai Wrote:

(01-30-2015, 03:31 PM)Gegenji Wrote:

(01-30-2015, 03:24 PM)Fai Wrote: But, more seriously and back on topic. K'aworu runs into the aforementioned a loooot. I don't mind eRP at all, but he isn't a real frivelous character in that department. This isn't to say he's a prude, it's just not easy, y'know? I feel like, basically, that because my character won't sleep around and do it on the drop of a hat, that my character is automatically uninteresting and won't be approached.

I like to think there's a nice bit of entertainment in the "will they or won't they?" approach, myself. I also don't really like rushing relationships either - it's so much better when you let it grow organically and have events and markers that signal how the relationship formed. Even something as being able to recall where your first date was at is a nice talking piece, even if you don't end up staying with them.

But some folks just want to get to the nitty-gritty. Which is their own choice, I suppose... as long as they don't try to force it upon others or shame them for not doing the same.

Agreed. I don't really judge if people do want to rush it and just get straight to things. I just don't really like taking that course. My main issue with any of it though is when you're like... OOCly avoided and singled out in a negative light just because you don't want to. Like you're some kind of no-fun zone.

(02-02-2015, 12:29 PM)Gegenji Wrote:

(02-02-2015, 12:20 PM)Zhavi Wrote: The way that community is, there is a certain pressure to have a beautiful, strong character.  There is a subtext that your character needs to be both powerful and attractive, and conventionally strong in that 'beautiful control' sort of way, where problems that arise are due to romantic drama and fights over territory.

... This trend was actually why my Champions Online hero (Lard Almighty) and APB criminal (Chris "Chrisco" Colietti) were both fat dudes. As fat as I could make 'em.

There's something deeply hilarious about some pretty large-chested heroine doing the daily grind of beating up street thugs and what amounts to the Blob from the X-Men squeezed into a college football uniform falls from the sky next to them before leaping away again.

Yes, I took the Hulk Super Jump movement power and I regret nothing about it. Used to joke that he'd make it so high up into the air that, if he decided to hip drop an enemy doing this, the last thought before impact would be "What smells like bacon?"

(02-03-2015, 01:05 PM)SessionZero Wrote: I rode that one for awhile

(02-03-2015, 01:19 PM)Kinono Wrote:

(02-03-2015, 01:05 PM)SessionZero Wrote: I rode that one for awhile

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