(06-24-2015, 07:13 PM)Intaki Wrote: I try not to gossip too much with one point of exception: if I or anyone whom I trust has a terrible experience with a member of an FC this will negatively impact my opinion of said FC and the capability and responsibility of its leadership. And these experiences and opinions are not ones that I will be frugal in sharing, especially to the new players and RPers I meet.
As an FC leader myself, I think it's prudent to let the FC leader know what's going on and see how they handle the situation before you pass any judgement on their leadership or the quality of the FC as a whole. All it takes is one bad newbie who wouldn't last long anyway, or one member having a bad a day or acting under the radar of the FC. We are not omniscient and don't always know what happens or how people behave when we aren't watching. I'm grateful anytime someone would rather communicate and let me know what's going rather than condemn me/my FC based on actions of someone who's likely to get the boot soon anyway. As for other FC leaders, whenever someone is causing trouble I often speak with their FC leader. Most are very grateful and apologetic. Occasionally you'll get someone who doesn't care or who behaves just as badly as the behavior you're reporting to them, but, well... I suppose that's when it's valid to pass judgement. After all, snap judgments and a lack of communication are what lead to so much of the drama being discussed here.