Very interesting read. This brings me back to something that always kind of disappointed me about sexy roleplay: why does it seem impossible to RP a fail-casanova?
For one of my alts I had in mind to RP a sort of flirtatious jerk. The type who avoids commitment and prefers one-night adventures with the ladies, while keeping a rather male chauvinist demeanor with ladies, with kinds of rude and dirty jokes. In his background I had decided that his cold and rude attitude often made him hopeless at getting ladies on his side, and that he'd have to often resort to prostitutes.
However I was rather baffled to see that no matter how rude, jerky and overall asshole-ry my character would be, he was never refused by anyone I'd ICly hit on; more often than not, I was the one being hit on, even.
I do am opposed to scripting other roleplayers' reactions to my character ("be scared" "be shocked" "be offended"), but I have been trying in every possible way to push the right buttons to get rejected by other roleplayers (because I OOCly do NOT want to ERP, nor get physical really. I am far too shy for that), with all the opposite results. I ended up having to find an IC excuse and walk away before things would get to a point I couldn't bear.
I've eventually abandoned open RP with this character, and now use him only with close OOC friends that know my limits. There is just no joy in playing with fire if you always get scorched after all.
But it really is puzzling how in so many months that I have been trying to RP him in the open world, I couldn't find one roleplayer that would reject my character. Does anybody else RP a fail-casanova? If you do, how do you handle it?
For one of my alts I had in mind to RP a sort of flirtatious jerk. The type who avoids commitment and prefers one-night adventures with the ladies, while keeping a rather male chauvinist demeanor with ladies, with kinds of rude and dirty jokes. In his background I had decided that his cold and rude attitude often made him hopeless at getting ladies on his side, and that he'd have to often resort to prostitutes.
However I was rather baffled to see that no matter how rude, jerky and overall asshole-ry my character would be, he was never refused by anyone I'd ICly hit on; more often than not, I was the one being hit on, even.
I do am opposed to scripting other roleplayers' reactions to my character ("be scared" "be shocked" "be offended"), but I have been trying in every possible way to push the right buttons to get rejected by other roleplayers (because I OOCly do NOT want to ERP, nor get physical really. I am far too shy for that), with all the opposite results. I ended up having to find an IC excuse and walk away before things would get to a point I couldn't bear.
I've eventually abandoned open RP with this character, and now use him only with close OOC friends that know my limits. There is just no joy in playing with fire if you always get scorched after all.
But it really is puzzling how in so many months that I have been trying to RP him in the open world, I couldn't find one roleplayer that would reject my character. Does anybody else RP a fail-casanova? If you do, how do you handle it?
To be an interesting, intriguing, well-written character, there needs to be something to allow the audience to relate to them. That is what the problem is with who wants their character to be "perfect". Perfect characters will never be strong, and strong characters will never be perfect, because WE (those who read, who watch, who RP) are not perfect.
"What makes a strong character is how they deal with their flaws, their fears, their turmoils, their troubles that get in the way. That's what makes them relatable." -- N.C.
"What makes a strong character is how they deal with their flaws, their fears, their turmoils, their troubles that get in the way. That's what makes them relatable." -- N.C.
