In situations like that, the person slandering says more about themselves than they do about whomever they're badmouthing.
Friendships fall apart sometimes, and the emotional aftermath of that sucks. For me, that's a time to self-reflect, and I may not always like what I see. Almost always I wind up with a list of things I could have done better. But as much as it hurts not only to mourn the loss of a connection but to face my own shortcomings, it's also a great opportunity to learn something about myself and grow up a little bit.
People who put all the blame on others and take no responsibility themselves don't easily mature. And to me, that's a person to be avoided.
Friendships fall apart sometimes, and the emotional aftermath of that sucks. For me, that's a time to self-reflect, and I may not always like what I see. Almost always I wind up with a list of things I could have done better. But as much as it hurts not only to mourn the loss of a connection but to face my own shortcomings, it's also a great opportunity to learn something about myself and grow up a little bit.
People who put all the blame on others and take no responsibility themselves don't easily mature. And to me, that's a person to be avoided.
